Annie's Mailbox®, June 23
by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together four years. During this time, I have been followed by detectives, watched by her friends and had some of my employees paid by my wife to "keep an eye" on me. I have been investigated by her children and am not welcome at her family functions.
My wife has called and visited my old girlfriends and checked with my ex-wife to see if I am still in contact with them. I've had my computer examined and my wallet gone through. There are tim ...
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Posted by: David Paul Xavier Burch
Comment: #1
Mon Jun 23, 2008 1:39 PM
Re: Carmel
I'm the same way as his wife; I would put a protective date through a "FBI-grade" full security check *even before I even let her know I was even interested! (Paranoid, I know; but "just because you're paranoid doesn't mean someone isn't out to get you". There are sickos out to get anyone just for the sake/fun of getting someone! How can you tell if you can trust anyone before you just jump in blindly? Someone once said that experience was a hard schoolmaster; but that some people would have no other; NOT ME!
On that note; how can you tell if a risk is worth taking? I.e how do you calculate the odds to see if they are either in your favor or, atl east as in your favor as they ever will be; without, again, just jumping in blindly like all of those stupid "motivational" books, websites, speakers say to?
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Posted by: Joannakathryn
Comment: #2
Mon Jun 23, 2008 8:56 AM
I love that poem, but it must have been written 20 years ago. They don't leave when they're 18 anymore. I've been waiting 5 years for mine to move out.
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Posted by: COOKINFOOL
Comment: #3
Tue Jun 24, 2008 5:56 AM
What a sad way to live - all paranoid and distrusting, suspicious and wary. It's one thing to do your "homework" and make sure the person of interest doesn't have a lurid, hidden past or criminal record but to continually dig and spy and sneak and fish for dirt on someone after being married for 4 years (and never finding anything to corroborate your suspisions) is just a sickness. I've been "burned" before - in a serious way - and I learned lessons from the experience, but thankfully, it didn't turn me into a cynical person who doubts everyone and everything. After giving someone a reasonable time to "prove" themselves to be trustworthy, if by then you aren't able to let go of your 'hang-ups' you should seriously considering some professional help to get over your phobias. I wouldn't stay with someone I didn't trust for one second, but if someone has earned that trust, GIVE IT TO THEM and move on and relax and be happy, for goodness sake! Why this man would want to stay in a relationship like that, I'll never understand.
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