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Re: Chris Amen to that! I'd kick my husband to the curb if he decided I need to take a polygraph to prove my innocence.

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i read the letter from "don't believe her". i have been in that situation, and i say trust your instincts. i didn't, and ended up miserable, repeatedly, with a spouse who was NEVER faithful, for all of the 6 years we were 'together'. yes, my hound, i mean, husband and i went to counseling. unfortunately, he was deceitful to the counselor, too. thankfully, i finally wised up and said, "ENOUGH!!" now, i am happy without him, and ever so grateful for my amazing children, who also have learned that they are better off without him (they have wonderful uncles to rely on). also, i am so grateful that he is gone from our lives, and ended up with a woman who is as deceitful as he is (thank you, karma). luckily, i learned from that, and now don't ever put up with less than i deserve. honestly, there is a reason we have instincts. trust them.

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Polygraphs aren't impervious to error, sure...but I've heard of a lot more cases where someone was lying and fooled the machine, than where someone failed (twice!) but was telling the truth. It troubles me that the man caught his wife in a truck with another man, she has no reasonable explanation, she fails 2 poly tests....and yet he's the one who's somehow in the wrong. Somehow others reading this letter think that the woman has grounds for divorce, even though she is the one who was caught red-handed fooling around on her husband! This reasoning bewilders me. Even if the tests were somehow inaccurate and the being-caught-in-the-truck business really was perfectly innocent, you must admit that it looks bad. There's a verse in the Bible about avoiding situations that impart the "mere appearance of evil" and this sounds like one of them. I sympathize with the husband - his wife is a lying skank, and HE is the one who needs to "run, not walk, to the nearest divorce lawyer."

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It's no wonder 'Don't Believe her's wife is talking to other men. Any husband who is willing to force his wife to submit to multiple polygraph tests in order to discern whether or not she was "talking" to another man in his car is beyond controlling. Even if the wife's motives were questionable, a simple discussion to get at the heart of the matter would suffice. If I were her, I would run, not walk, to the nearest divorce lawyer. Children or not, her husband sounds like a jealous jerk and they definitely have trust issues which the children will undoubtedly pick up.

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Seems to me like the wife is in the wrong for being in a suspicious situation with another man and the husband is in the wrong for asking his wife to take a polygraph test. If you have to ask your spouse for a polygraph test, no matter WHAT the reason, you ALREADY have serious issues going on. They BOTH need to get together and get some marital counselling and see if they can resolve the underlying issues that caused this situation in the first place. Maybe he has been unreasonably distrustful and accusatory for years and finally pushed her toward someone else - who knows? Maybe she's just a floozy that wanted another man's attention. We only have a tiny bit of the story, I'm sure there is much, much more to it than we'll ever k now. They just need to decide if they have a marriage worth saving and go from there.