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"The problem is, he isn't aggressive enough. Some of the girls play better than he does." I wish the answer to the letter about the son and sports had included a response to this comment. Are we still so far back in the stone age that we think girls can't play sports well? Why do we still believe that boys can and should play better than girls?

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Regarding: daughters dislike for brothers girl friend. I think you are off base with your answer. If the daughter has a problem,let it be hers!! If she don't want to be around Jennifer it is her choice. The parents should not be obligated to rearrange things or foot the bill on hotels. Tell the daughter to get a life!! .

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Children in their thirties, well, the daughter is surely still a child. Grow up little princess!! I'll just bet there are some things about your boyfriend that bro doesn't love, but he's not having a tantrum about it. IF there is some legitimate reason (she steals, lies, or cheats on bro) that she doesn't like her that would be one thing, but if that is the case she should express her concerns to her parents or brother. "I won't come if she's there" is the cry of a spoiled brat.

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We were amazed at the number of readers who wanted to tar and feather this mother. We agree the man doesn't sound like a predator and Mom needs to watch her daughter more closely, but we know Mom is acting out of concern. !!!!!!!!! Concern for WHOM?? I'd say more for her own "reputation" as a mom than any real concern for her girl. The little brat posed as an adult and this guy's career, his entire life could be ruined because of her "fun and games" because mom wouldn't make her take responsibility for her own actions and blamed the poor guy who was under the impression that she was AN ADULT! You guys were so far off on this. If it were a son or brother of yours would you have been so understanding of mom trying to shift the blame like that?? SHAME ON YOU! I don't think mom should be tarred and feathered, but an apology to the poor guy would be the least of what she should do. She should be contacting the authorities and giving them apologies and TRUTHFUL explainations of what happened and do everything possible to be sure his life isn't shredded because of her daughter's actions.

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I can sympathize to a point with the daughter of the first LW. For 25 years, I put up with my husband's SIL's constant sniping, putdowns, pouting, and holier-than-thou attitude. I bent over backwards to be nice to her, only to have her say snide things in my presence in her passive-aggressive way. Finally, I had enough. While I will go to family gatherings where she will be, I won't let myself get stuck in the same house with her for more than a day. The last time we were all together for Christmas, toward the end of the day, she was pouting (keep in mind she's in her 40s at the time). Her husband asked her what's wrong, and she (picture a 4-year-old with her lip stuck out) said, "I wanted to sing Happy Birthday to Jesus." Had she mentioned wanting to do this? Of course not. She expected everybody to read her mind and then pouted because nobody did. I'd rather spend holidays alone than be around her. As far as the first LW, there are three months in the summer. There should be plenty of time for the kids to visit without overlapping. Don't they all have to work?

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I just have to comment on "Torn Parents in Denver" about the daughter who refuses to come home if she has to be around her brothers girlfriend. It's the daughters choice to not come home. What she is doing is controlling her parents, and they shouldnt let that happen. They should tell her that it is her choice not to come home, they will all miss her dearly, and when she gets over whatever she's going threw everyone will love to see her. How controlling is that, that you are actually sugesting that the parents put her or her brother up in a hotel? Its her choice not to come home, its her choice not to like her brothers girlfriend. Not the parents!!!!!!!!

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I'm sorry, 'acting out of concern'? So it would have been okay if the mother in question gathered a group of vigilantes to mete out some physical retribution upon an innocent man - she'd be acting "out of concern", of course! The only people at fault here are this 14-year-old girl and her mother, who seems to think that her precious daughter can do no wrong, and is willing to possibly destroy an INNOCENT man's life to maintain that illusion. Frankly, I'm sickened by the fact that there's no way to bring the REAL criminals here to justice - though we can always pray that the poor man takes that vindictive woman to court for defamation of character and compensation for any damage she may have done to his life.