Annie's Mailbox®, May 1
by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar
Dear Annie: My mother-in-law has been living with us for 16 years. She hasn't said one word to my wife in six months. She hasn't spoken to me for well over 10 years. There is no cooperation from her whatsoever.
Meanwhile, our living situation has deteriorated and Mom refuses any of our efforts to have her live elsewhere. Our attorney says the only way to remove her is by eviction.
The rest of the family says it's our problem since we agreed to care for her to begin with. We have ...
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Posted by: Datura
Comment: #1
Fri May 2, 2008 11:09 AM
If you've already talked to an attourney about this, why not go the extra mile and serve the eviction notice to your mother-in-law. You may think she's helpless, but she'll find a place to live when it is clear she has to. She may or may not be mentally ill, but having her stay in your house and enjoy it's benefits isn't going to help anyone. Compassion is a nice thing to have, but 16 years is too long to live with someone in your home who treats your family like her staff.
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Posted by: Jennifer
Comment: #2
Sat May 3, 2008 6:54 AM
Re: Jan
Um, actually they state that is IS an anti-anxiety med and NOT an antidepressant. Re-read the column.
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Posted by: Jennifer
Comment: #3
Thu May 1, 2008 9:19 AM
Maybe if they made life a little less comfy for this old bat, she'd want to live elsewhere. Stop doing her laundry, stop cooking for her, put locks on the doors you don't want her snooping in (pretty much any room other than her own and the bathroom), go out to eat without her. Since the "family" is so unhelpful and probably grateful that they don't have to deal with her, feel free to take her for a visit to one of them, and leave her there. Have her belongings shipped over there and wash your hands of her. Desperate times call for desperate measures.
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Posted by: Jan
Comment: #4
Thu May 1, 2008 9:37 AM
Are you sure Xanax is an anti-depressent? I always thought it was an anti-anxiety med. As a nurse I have administered it for many years to patients and it was ordered for anxiety and for it's tranquilizing affects.
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Posted by: Matt
Comment: #5
Wed Apr 30, 2008 10:45 PM
Why doesn't he just put the m-i-l's things out on the front doorstep when she's out shopping, change the locks, then call "the rest of the family" to tell them what he has done? It may sound cruel, but the fellow and his wife sound desparate, and the m-i-l sounds like a horror to deal with. I am not even sure what to make of the "not speaking" thing - does he mean this literally, or merely that she won't be pleasant?
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