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Dear Annie, I totally disagree with your advice to the pregnant woman. This is a toxic mother-in-law who does not deserve to have a grandson. My mother-in-law did not raise my husband and never accepted him or me. When our son was born she only wanted to be 'granmere' on her terms. We have suffered over 30 years of emotional pain due to her nasty remarks and behavior. We are now respsonsible for her care as she suffers from severe dementia. I wish we had had the courage to leave her out of our lives, but we always hoped she would change. I hope this couple will focus on those who really love them, enjoy their baby and give this woman what she deserves, nothihng.

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If the MIL's attitude and abuse was unprovoked - Holy Cow, I agree with the above comments. What is up with "Annie" ... with the lousy advice? If I was the target of undeserved hatred and abuse, the LAST thing I'd ever do would be to share my precious wonderful child with that person. My advice to the writer would be that since only they know if they helped cause the bad blood - if their own hands are dirty in this, then yes, go ahead and say let's mend fences, I'll be civil if you'll be civil. If the olive branch is spat upon, that's it. Done. MIL can come crawling back and do serious amends if she wants any other chances. If however, the Daughter in Law helped cause the scene, then yeah, the civil and "big" thing to do would be to offer bygones and no hard feelings etc. But seriously? Wishing such evil on your DIL? No children? I think the MIL is probably a candidate for the Better Dead Club. Annie screwed the pooch on this advice.

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If the MIL's attitude and abuse was unprovoked - Holy Cow, I agree with the above comments. What is up with "Annie" ... with the lousy advice? If I was the target of undeserved hatred and abuse, the LAST thing I'd ever do would be to share my precious wonderful child with that person. My advice to the writer would be that since only they know if they helped cause the bad blood - if their own hands are dirty in this, then yes, go ahead and say let's mend fences, I'll be civil if you'll be civil. If the olive branch is spat upon, that's it. Done. MIL can come crawling back and do serious amends if she wants any other chances. If however, the Daughter in Law helped cause the scene, then yeah, the civil and "big" thing to do would be to offer bygones and no hard feelings etc. But seriously? Wishing such evil on your DIL? No children? I think the MIL is probably a candidate for the Better Dead Club. Annie screwed the pooch on this advice.

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I disagree with your response to Expecting and Stressed. Of course, only she knows if any of her mother-in-law's behavior toward her was provoked, but while I'm all for showing respect to one's elders, respect is a two-way street. I don't see the virtue in allowing her child to associate with a mean-spirited person. Being part of her grandchild's life is not an entitlement. It's a privilege that needs to be earned. If the mother-in-law wants contact with her grandson, it would serve her to show her daughter-in-law the same respect she wishes to receive. Only then should Stressed and her husband rethink their decision about whether or not his mother is capable of being a positive influence on their child. Another Point of View.

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Are you kidding me? There's NO WAY I'd allow my child to be around a person so horrible that they openly wish for you to never experience parenthood. I say, good riddance. The minute she allows this woman an inch into her child's life, she'll take a mile, then she'll be fighting a constant battle. Nip it in the bud now, and make it clear to the husband that his wife and child come before the selfish hag.