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About the woman whose husband "Sal" wanted her to wear a sexy outfit on their romantic weekend. I say go for it. She should be happy that her husband still finds her appealing and thinks that she would look good in that outfit. She's 45, she shouldn't have to worry about what other people think. If she is still uncomfortable about wearing it out, she could explain to Sal that she would prefer to wear it in the privacy of their own room and that she would enjoy it if he undressed her. I guarantee that Sal will enjoy that just as much.

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In regard to the woman who loaned her friend money and still hasn't received repayment: your advice was correct up to a point. Offering to be repaid in installments is a kind gesture. If the woman doesn't repay her, she can sue in court. It may be possible to sue in small claims court if the amount is under the maximum allowed by her state. She can call the court to find out the maximum amount allowed. If it's more than that she may hire a lawyer and sue in the appropriate court. It's best if she has proof of the loan such as a written agreement or cancelled check with “loan” written on it. But a judge may accept a cancelled check without the word “loan” written on it. Also, if you watch those great court TV programs, sometimes just a bank statement showing the withdrawal of the money from her account along with witness testimony regarding the loan may be adequate. It's always best to consult a lawyer about what legal options are available to her in her area. I just wanted to point out that she doesn't need to feel that she has no recourse if the so-called friend refuses to repay the loan as your answer seems to indicate.

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RE: the writer who didn't like siblings sharing their inheritance with those who didn't get anything. Sometimes parents have other motives to exclude a child from their will. My mother was abused and despised by her mother. Despite a lifetime of seeking acceptance from from this woman, my mother was always excluded and rejected from the rest of the family. Even at death, my grandmother did what she could to hurt her in one final way. After dividing up the meager estate with Mom's two siblings, my grandmother added a statement that "to her daughter "Mae" she left nothing." In an unguarded moment, Mom once revealed that "you never give up hoping you will be accepted even when you know it won't happen." Mom wasn't surprised at what her mother did, but it still hurt bitterly. Even more so when her siblings insisted that she attend the reading of the will after Mom expressed doubt that she would be left anything. They knew exactly what was coming.

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Many times the parent is irrational and excluding a child or children from a will is maneuvered by the greedy. Sadly, money is way to o important to them to share and the "excluded" must accept the fact that their siblings cheated them. Consider yourself lucky that you don't have to deal with them anymore.

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I'd like to add to the poster of an earlier post re: the writer who didn't like siblings sharing their inheritance with those who didn't get anything. One case that I know of, it was more of an unintentional omission. The parent in that case had a will where the estate was divided four ways: 45% to two of her children, 5% to the 3rd child and 10% divided up equally to be given to the grandchildren. At that time, the parent's rationale was that because the first two children had a disability, the parent wanted them to be taken care of after the parent's death. The 3rd child was as normal as normal can be and that the parent didn't think the 3rd child needed help from the estate. A couple months prior to the parent's death, the parent realized the mistake (her two children with a disability went on to lead successful lives and consequently are secure in their finances) and wanted to rectify it to be split equally three ways to her 3 children with 10% to the grandchildren. She made her intentions known to each one of the children individually. The two children knew about this. The mother repeated her assertion over and over again. One day, she passed away suddenly and unexpectedly. With her death, this situation became even stranger when the 3rd child was designated the executor of her estate. He found out that their mother did not get the old will updated with her new wishes. That is, the latest and most recent will was the one with him getting 5%. He did his job admirably and with professionalism (even though he was very hurt). At the end, the two brothers knew that their mother wanted to split the estate 3 ways and told their brother that they will make sure that every brother gets 30% no matter what was in the will. To this day, they are still good brothers to one another. Annie is right... YOU will know and will have to live with your decision for the rest of your life.