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When my daughter & son-in-law got serious, my daughter knew her beau didn't have money to buy a diamond ring & insisted that they get a cubic zirconium ring. That's the ring she still has, after almost 17 years. It is a beautiful ring, I don't think she'd part with it even if he offered at this time. It's not the value of the ring; it's the thought behind it.

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When my husband and I were ready to get married, we both worked at Wal-mart and couldn't afford anything big. So, I went to the jewelry store, found a nice mounting and had three stones added to it. On one side is my birthstone on the other is his birthstone and the big stone in the middle is the month we got married. I love it! And it's very pretty.

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The questions are getting silllier every day. So "Perplxed in the Midwwest" says he has been with his girlfriend 3 years. When they first dated she "unexpetely got pregnant." Phrases like that keep showing up in advice columns. How does that happen? Did she get that way all by herself. Did he have no knowledge of how she did it. Give me a break. They have dated three years, have a child who is their "life's joy" yet they aen't married. Do they live together. She had no idea of his financil situation. I think both of them had better grow up before they get married and that they either give that child a home with a father and mother or place the child for adoption in a family that has some kind of values and want to be the joy of their child's life or rather than vice versa. My main complaint is this business of a woman all of a sudden becomes pregnant---and so often it is the man who writes it. More and more the responsibility is put on the woman for prenancies. When will people start taking life seriously.

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Tell Perplexed to go to Walmart or Kmart. They have beautiful diamonds at a fraction of the cost of regular jewelry stores. Get her the real thing even if its small. You can always trade up.

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I didn't realize you would use my name. I would have used an alias, or asked you not touse it in the reply. You could have put "Perplexed in the Midwest? as the writer did.

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What is with the diamonds??? People, if that's a requirement you aren't mature enough to even think of marriage. (unless you are looking at it as some sort of 'safety net' in case y'all break up, and then my point goes double) You have a child to care for, get a plain gold band and quit trying to act as if you haven't skipped a step or two. That means a quiet small ceremony and small reception IF YOU CAN AFFORD THAT. If not, quiet ceremony and on with your life. If you can't afford a diamond then don't get one. It's that simple. Want to show you really care? Put a chunk into an account to put that kid through college and grow up yourselves. Diamond??? Why Finance That???

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There is nothing wrong with a Cubic Zirconia ring. Just DON'T HIDE THAT FACT FROM HER! Honestly, she shouldn't mind what the ring is, she's probably more concerned with wat it means. Don't go all 'cheap' and stuff, but stay within reason. Hiding things from your fiance now sets a really bad precedence for later in marriage. You may also want to look at other precious stones. My wife really likes some of the ruby and saffire rings out there and has considered getting one of these for her weddding ring. She's still wearing her Cubic Zirconium ring from our wedding, and she still loves it. :) Don't fret over what the ring is, so long as she like it and it doesn't break the bank. Just stay honest with her.