Annie's Mailbox®, February 28
by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar
Dear Annie: Last May, I found out my husband, "Aldo," was addicted to child pornography. He was never very interested in sex, but I had no idea this was the reason.
I have four children from a previous marriage and, as the result of being sexually abused as a child, have always talked to them about good touching and bad touching. After counseling and checkups, I have been assured that Aldo has not done anything to them.
Aldo and I decided to work things out. His counse ...
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Posted by: BB
Comment: #1
Thu Feb 28, 2008 8:04 PM
I agree with Leni. Even if she has to stop college, she needs to get out of this situation. Not everyone who looks at child pornography is a child molestor (I assume) but I wouldn't take the chance.
Next time, she needs to pay for a thorough background check - including financial history - on any boyfriend she is serious about, have AIDS and other tests taken for each of them, and meet the parents and the family and friends. If the prospective husband doesn't like this, he is too self-absorbed for her. With her background and experiences and because she has children in the home, she has to be extremely careful. Someone with nothing to hide, who loves her and will be kind to her kids should understand this.
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Posted by: leni
Comment: #2
Thu Feb 28, 2008 8:41 AM
"His counselor says that since Aldo has come clean with his problem and finally opened up about his own childhood sexual abuse, he would not have the urge to do this again."
Aldo needs a new counselor, that is the most absurd statement I've ever heard.
Someone needs to get her kids out of this home. If she wants to work it out that's her business but she needs to send her kids to either Grandma's house or their father's. It sounds as if the reason she decided to "work it out" is because she needs the financial support but the kids would be safer in a homeless shelter. When you have children you do not have the luxury of marrying just any old pervert. Even without kids I can't imagine why a grown woman would choose to be married to a man who has no interest in a woman who has passed puberty She did say he had no sexual interest in her, didn't she?
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