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Very very sad letter, and my heart goes out to this fellow. Clearly, men are not the only ones who cheat and wreck marriages. I can also understand his frustration and rage with his wife's enabling friends. The columnist says that the wife "would have found another way," but the friends doubtlessly made it far easier for her to hide her infidelity. The man who wrote this letter will eventually find a woman who will appreciate him and his children, if he gets to the point of wanting someone like that.

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I feel for LW1. His wife is lower than pond scum, but he needs to get out of the mindset that she has "destroyed the childrens' lives." Right now, it doesn't matter so much what she did, what matters is what he's going to do about it. He can let her make him bitter, or he can decide to live life to the fullest. He can make sure the kids have a good life, just like thousands and thousands of single parents I would never give another person the satisfaction of thinking he made me bitter. He needs to throw himself one last pity party and then move on.

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I agree with everyone here. Try to build a life for the children. That should be a top piority (sp). Then, erase the wife out of the picture. If she and her friends were willing to do that then, forshame on them. He should He should start severing ties with them, including the wife. That a way, he can have a happy, healthy family sooner or later

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Your letter could have been written by me or any one of my many friends whose husbands ceated on them. People who cheat don't care or think about the damage they cause, only themselves. The hole in your heart remains, but certainly grows smaller with time. You will be ok.

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Dear Annie, I found an article from your column, that I had kept for some time about a woman from Canada was taking Apple Cider Vinegar for hot flashes. I was just wondering just how much does she drink of the Apple Cider Vinegar? Any feedback will be appreciated. Marva

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My good friend has been having a affair for the last year and half. She has been unhappy for over 10 years. As her friend it was good to see her a happy. I'm her friend NOT her husbands friend. Her husband is a nice enough guy. Why? she doesn't just leave, I don't know?! The guy she's seeing is also a nice guy. I feel sorry for both of these men. BUT - I'm her friend. During her affair when she did call me - it would be all about her lover. After a couple of months of it - I didn't want to hear it anymore. Also being her main alibi for over a year and we rarely spent anytime together anymore. Our friendship will NEVER be the same. Two months ago she ended her affair. Now she's calling again. But like I said - our friendship will never be the same. So, In regards to "Still Loving Her" Being the husband that cooked, cleaned, cared for the children - good job! I always say there's three sides to every story - the truth - his and her's. I was with my ex for over 13 years. He would say he's was a great husband. We lived in a tiny small house and I was always lonely. For the last 5 years, I have lived alone, and now I never feel lonely.

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My heart goes out to the first letter writer. I have never been through a divorce, but I hope there is some way he can protect his money now that he has filed. I do not think that everyone who has an affair is selfish, but that woman certainly fits her description. How do you go on trips and spend money on your lover while taking money away from your kids?

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Re: Marva Just FYI ..... This is not the correct place to get a letter to "Annie." There is another link for that on the main page, it says "write the author." This page is just "comments" from readers. The writers of "Dear Annie" most likely never see this page. However, some of the comment writers just might have some advice about the apple cider vinegar for you.