I think time wil tell for Keith on his fear of intimacy . I was heavy and lost 75-80 lbs a the age of 16-17 after graduating high school.... After losing the weight I met the man I married and went off to the Univ of Texas for two years... I dated at Univ of Texas and after two years he was at home working and I started going with him and married him until his death ....We were married lacking one month of 39 years and were in love until his death. We had four beautiful children and did everything together...I worked in the med center in Houston and he worked for his rich uncle in the oilfield supply business and in 1978 we bought the business from his uncle which my husband ran from the beginning.,,, My son runs the company for me now and my two daughters work with me in the office every day. My oldest daughter started when we opened the company but went on to get her Master's degree in computer science and teaching and on to getting a certificate to be a principal..... I own the company 100%. Mike my son opened two more companies within our main company....
So my being fat didn't hurt me being so young .....I had four children and never gained any weight back...
I wear a size 1 ......
It's all a frame of mind.....you can do it if you want !!!!

Sometimes the life change that some people who struggle with over eating need is to actually break free from that need to feel satisfied. Eating is only one behavior that people run to for filling up that void...and they are ALWAYS a temporary fix. I have spent my whole life running from pain or discomfort..and food has been my pill. However, again, its only temporary and due to satiation it gradually required more and then more to get that satisfied feeling. I am learning now at 38 yrs, that if you aren't experiences that pain and discomfort along with the happy times, then life is really passing you buy. I have quit numbing myself until this ideal situation comes along that will buy me permanent contentment. That wont happen in this imperfect life. Its not supposed to. So, i am learning to embrace the pain, face my life for what it is, and not for what I hope it to be. I am feeling for the first time in my life.... feeling EVERYTHING. I am living. I am even learning how to embrace those cravings and the feeling that I get when I don't jump and give in to them. Pleasure in the pain.