If you get any hint that something inappropriate happened to your daughter, do not press her. Children want to please parents and other adults and being asked repeatedly if she's been touched or insisting on an answer could not only show something true, it could also get her to reply positively when nothing happened. Lots of reputations have been ruined because adults pushed kids past their ability to hold out for the truth. More adults have probably ignored signs or told children they were lying. If you think something has been going on, get someone who knows how to gain this information so it can be used to stop whatever is going on and punish the perpetrator (or get help for some child). That could be a therapist or a sex crimes against children police officer.

Your child has been a victim of abuse or is copying another child who has been victimized . Get a professional involved immediately. Parents who ignore this put their children at risk for life-long problems. It could be at the after school program or at home or in the neighborhood. We have a nephew who will never have a normal life because his parents chose to ignore repeated warnings about a daycare provider who also attended their church.Other victims exhibited the behaviors you are describing. It was only when a dayhome operator told the parents she could not care for the child until therapy had taken place that they acted. Even then no charges were brought because of embarassment. The perpetrator went on to another community and was finally caught. Numerous children were victimized because of STUPID,STUPID PARENTS. tHEY ARE ACCESSORIES TO THE CRIME IN MY OPINION.

I question whether these behaviours are the result of ''abuse''. It is quite common for chidren of that age to be curious about things that are ''covered up''. Yes, it is likely her 6 yo brother is involved. (Possible the older brother could be a perpetrator-- that's another matter, then, we would have an abuse situation.) At any rate, it pays for the parents not to overreact and to councel her on the inappropriateness of the behavior. Without accusing, the 6 yo needs to be councelled, by the father, about the inappropriateness of intimate touching as well.