Re: Tough Love and DNA, I think "Brokenhearted Mom" needs to find an Al-Anon Family Group for support of family and friends of alcoholics and take her husband with her. Whether it's alcohol or drugs, the daughter has an addiction problem that has affected both her parents as well as her son, who might find understanding and help himself in Alateen. It is possible to love the person while hating the disease, and to set boundaries in order to have a relationship without being an enabler or being taken to the cleaners.

Yes, good call on Al-Anon, I don't think Mom still understands how she needs to deal with this. Stop "helping" every time daughter needs a bail out. Daughter knows she can completely mess up and it's Mom to the rescue. Mom needs to recognize her enabling behavior.

For LW1... it IS possible his girlfriend spent so much time with these guys NOT because they were having sex but because they were drinking and time got away from them. If that is the case though... that is a whole OTHER problem.