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Type Dirty To Me

by Amy Alkon

A couple years ago, I "met" a guy online, and we started e-mailing and sexting (sending sexy texts via cellphone). We decided to meet, but he canceled. I figured he was married, and dropped it. Within a few months, his sexts were popping up again. Five months ago, I met my boyfriend. The other guy was sexting me about once a month. I got a naughty thrill from messaging back. But, as my feelings for my boyfriend intensified, my thrill morphed into disgust. I'd delete the evidence and ...

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Posted by: Matt
Comment: #1
Wed Jun 3, 2009 11:38 AM

Wow. A girl who "puts out" on the second date, and winds up feeling used. Imagine that. When are women going to grow some morals, grow up, and stop letting men just take whatever they want? You don't get respect or a real relationship by allowing someone to walk all over you. (And no ladies, I'm not letting the guys off the hook for doing the using.) But the women have most of the power to say "yes" or "no," so I'm having a hard time seeing why they give in without a commitment and established relationship beforehand.

Posted by: Pat-tricia
Comment: #2
Wed Jun 3, 2009 9:46 PM

Matt: I agree with you here. I think these women are so desperate that they'll do anything to catch a guy. They certainly have no self-respect. The guys seem to expect sex early in the "relationship" because so far they've been getting it. Why get to know a girl - who she really is, what she thinks, what her life goals are - if she doesn't seem all that interested in telling you but is willing to have sex. And of course some women are all too willing to give a guy sex early on because they think that's what will keep him coming back. Unfortunately, they'll be coming back but not for the girl; they'll be coming back for the sex. Neither one is really getting to know the other. And the men probably have no more respect for the women then the women have indicated they have for themselves. When the excitement of the new sex partner wears off, the "relationship" will be over. After all, it's only been going on for the sex and the couple don't really KNOW each other and they certainly have no emotional involvement. Oh, wait. sometimes there's a baby and that is supposed to keep these couples together. I know sex is supposed to be such an important element in life. If couples would wait and get to know each other they'll have a more meaningful and satisfying sexual relationship with each other. Otherwise, it's no more important than a night out bowling or watching a movie. Sex is a part of marital relationship. It should be special, not something you do with just anyone you happen to go out with a few times. I'm fairly certain, we'd have fewer cases of STDs and babies born out of wedlock if more people behaved according to that concept. And guys, do you really want the mother of your children to be someone who'd hop into bed with a guy on the first or second date? So stop pushing for sex before you really know and care for the woman. Do you want to have child with a stranger? That's what may very well happen if you're having sex too early in a relationship. How do you know the woman you're having sex with would be a good mom to your child? You don't? Then why are you having sex with her? Birth control does not always work despite the best intentions. And some women are known to "accidentally on purpose" get pregnant to trap a guy. If you don't know the woman you're sleeping with, how would you know she isn't one who would get pregnant on purpose? So listen up guys; be careful.

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