Not sure if the message to LW1 is right, I've not seen older men worrying their heads about if they are attractive enough for their young wives... I realize the argument that men are more looks driven than women when finding a mate I've not really agreed with it... I do think its important for everyone to stay as healthy/attractive as possible (within reason) for themselves & their mates. Keeps the fires burning more in your own self esteem and relationships, etc.