Posted by: Pat-tricia
Comment: #1
Sun May 31, 2009 2:34 PM
LW1: I have no idea why this lw is still trying to have a relationship with her mother. It's obvious that the mother doesn't value her or her full sibling. I wonder if that has anything to do with their father - that the mom had a really bad relationship with him and the children of that marriage are reminders of him. In any case, I'd cut my loses and just not have anything to do with that so-called mom again. She is the one who broke the relationship, not the lw. I think it's better for the kids to not have anything to do with that toxic person. She has already hurt them and would only continue to do so.
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Posted by: Katie
Comment: #2
Wed Jun 3, 2009 8:59 AM
I am in my 50's and "lucky" enough to still have both of my parents alive. They LOVE my brother, but me, they ignore. MY unmarried brother, who has no family gets money and presents, while I get very little. MY children get things from them and so does my grandchild. It can still makes me feel bad, after all these years if I let it. I was the one who took care of them when there were any problems and had them for Holiday dinners, while my brother was far away, unavailable and on drugs. I am fortunate to have a loving relationship with MY OWN children and many other adults I call "my kids'! I love being a Mom and Grandmom, so I hope that LW finds someone like me who would LOVE to be the LOVING GRANDMA in the life of those kids. I have a great "family" of friends I have picked. I have a friend who is only 5 yrs older than I am, but she is MY MOM!! She has given me so much and in turn has shown me what to give my kids! Work, church, and any community activities will help you find a warm 'family' you can call your own. They may not look like you, but the love will be real.
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