John, are YOU for real? The man stays overnight at his ex's house twice, citing the needs of kids with whom he's so close that little else matters. At the very least, I'd advise his girlfriend to tread carefully. Clearly, his (non-biological) kids will always mean more to him than she amd her child will. And, my instinct tells me that he may be reconnecting with his ex. In any case, his girlfriend needs to back off on the complaints, cast a cold eye over their relationship, reasses her priorites and decide whether she can live with the situation -- because it won't change.

Well, I've heard everything now. Usually this guy gives good advice, but I believe his teenage son took over the column when he walked away with his computer on. Disturbing!