John, you were absolutely wrong regarding the "me man, you woman" letter writer. As a survivor of an extremely abusive relationship, this marriage just reeks of potential abuse. I could have written this letter myself 20 years ago. Please review your comment and let this woman know that she has an abuser on her hands. If not now, most certainly in the future. You need to write about the warning signs of an abusive relationship. Simply sitting this man down and having a talk with him will not do it. If anything, it could fire him up to the point of violence. Believe me, I speak from experience.