The man who is thinking of destroying his marriage for his "first love" is having a good, old-fashioned mid-life crisis. He's trying to get back some of his youth by re-connecting with this woman. I feel sorry for his wife, whom he is obviously blaming for his own muddled psyche. Go on, mister, destroy two families because you've reached middle age and feel disappointed at how your life has turned out so far. You feel old, so sex with a different women should probably fix that, huh? Here's a suggestion: if you feel like you need to stir up your life, and get out of a mental and physical rut, take up sky diving or bungee jumping or white water rafting. There's more to an exciting life than who you're bonking. What you don't need to do is tear your family apart because you need to feel alive.