While John Gray correctly stated that LW1 needs to make more time for her husband, I am astonished that he did not call her out on her abusive behavior. True, she's stressed, and their living situation is lousy, but nothing - NOTHING - gives her the right to "become physical" unless it is with someone who has tried to harm her physically first. Not ever. No matter how stressed she is. Her husband may be haranguing her verbally to the point that he is abusing her as well, but no matter. And from the sound of things, he is trying to discuss things that are very much his business to discuss with his wife. She must get into counseling, both with and without her husband, to learn how to control her anger and so they can learn a better way of communicating and managing their difficult circumstances.