I have to comment on letter #1 about the online dating situation. I did online dating off on for about 2 years with disappointing and dismal results. I did learn quite a lot about men and human nature. For starters, just because someone has a profile online and it says they want a long-term relationship with no game playing, doesn't mean that they are willing to hold up their end of the deal if you hit it off on the first date. I had several first dates and some 2nd dates that didn't pan out to anything. Many men seem fickle and like they were scared of dating even though they had joined a dating site. I was naive to believe that I might actually find more men who were willing to give dating a real shot. What I found were a lot of players or men who simply did not know what they wanted. Distance also played a role in some of it. If they didn't live locally or very close driving distance, it didn't seem to bode well for continued dates. What I also saw time and time again was a laziness on the part of the men I corresponded with. Many started out as instant messages and then emailing and eventually phoning. Once you get to the phoning stage, it's time to make plans to meet. There were some men who seemed content to never meet and do phone talks only. One guy strung me along for quite a while. When I finally asked him again about meeting, his response was that he froze up upon meeting. I told him that that was the point in meeting people though--to know if it was worth pursuing or not. I didn't give the guy much thought after that. Then months later, I get an instant message from him again. I said "oh yea, you're the guy who had a profile online but didn't want to meet anyone. I had basically not given you much thought after that." I later blocked him from messaging me. I met a guy who claimed to be a Christian. Trust me, they can say anything but the worst game player ended up being the "Christian" guy. I boycotted online dating after him. Life is too short. I've got a guy now locally and things are not perfect, but at least I'm not dealing with men who are strangers and want to continue to play the field and play games with women's emotions. It was not for me and I doubt that I'll ever venture into it ever again.

Letter #2 proves that just because a guy is older, he isn't necessarily any more mature than some of the younger guys. This guy is another one who doesn't know what he wants. He wants what he can't have and he doesn't want what he has. The chase is the thrill for him. Don't be there when he comes back. He isn't worth the risk. He's proven he's unreliable and immature emotionally for his age. You can do better.