Ethnically Speaking, November 1
by Larry Meeks
Dear Larry: My wife of five years is leaving me. I am heartbroken and need some advice. I live in a very rural community, am out of work, and have few friends.
I don't think this makes any difference, but my wife is white, and I am black. Her parents have treated me as they would treat a son, and I never have felt race is an issue. I am a college graduate, and the only way I am going to get employment is to leave the paradise of rural living for the urban hustle and bustle.
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Posted by: BB
Comment: #1
Sat Nov 1, 2008 11:17 AM
To the blind-sided husband: Perhaps your mood swings were the reason she was afraid to tell you anything about her own feelings. What did you do during the downward swings? I recommend that you get a full physical, tell the doctor about your mood swings and what your wife is saying. Then, move where you can get a job. Rural living is wonderful if there is money coming in but might be a bit difficult with nothing to live on. Do what Asian immigrants do, get any job. I have known of college professors from Russia who take day work in order to have enough for their family to live on. Check into free or a sliding scale counseling center. Then go. If medication is recommended, discuss the pros and cons and then take it with the realization that it does not solve all problems. You need insight into your own emotional processes and mental health. Only then would I suggest you do anything other than what you intend to do now, tell your wife that you will be taking realistic and positive steps. When you have gotten the physical, gotten a job, started seeing a counselor, and have put two months into it (many people go only three times because they hear what they don't want to hear), then you can contact her again.
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Posted by: thomas summerlin
Comment: #2
Sat Nov 8, 2008 8:36 AM
Re: BB i am 79 years old negro male,retired us marines and us postal service.the person stated his wife is white and he is black,and she is leaving him.this young black man was never told about the black and white marriage problems in america.too bad some black person did not explain this kind of pboblem to the young blacks in this country.
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