When I was a first time parent, I realized I had to be even more diligent about protecting my child after he fell and split his lip open. He was walking 6 months, and I assumed he was steady enough when in reality, he wasn't totally there, and at age 2, wasn't aware of how he could get hurt. I had to look ahead at what he was doing, making sure his environment was safe. I'd tell him about corners on furniture etc. so he'd be aware. He was very smart, and learned immediately. I never had to punish, yell. I experienced no terrible two's with my children. I was told to write a parenting book by laymen and professionals since my children were well behaved and repectful.
My 2 year old grandson hits me, throws things at me, even when I'm just sitting there watching him play. He is curious about things in my house when he comes to visit. My daughter-in-law refuses to let anyone tell him no, or let them guide him with loving explanation. He turned my gas on without the flame twice while staying here, the first time resulting in fumes filling the house since we went out and no one saw he do this. I never leave small child alone. His parents were watching him then. The next morning, he did it again in front of me and his mother. She turned the knob off, and he left the room. She said nothing to him. He also took a large metal toy car and was about to throw it at my flat screen TV or glass front cabinet under it, when several visitors we had that day all yelled no at the same time. My daughter-in-law was livid. Now she's not talking to me. I feel she has no repect for others. She also claims she feels guilty having a c-section and not being able to breast feed so that's why she does what she does. She also works and has a nanny. She's a psychologist and tells everyone "I'm the psychologist" and I'm the only one who will discipline my child. I have a masters in early childhood education, but what does that have to do with having common sense. I'm dumbfounded. She can do what she wants in her own home, and I abide by her rules, but in my home, I should be allowed to set boundaries for what I'll tolerate from anyone, no matter what age they are. My son can't convince her of anything. I say, live and let live. I don't judge. We all have different parenting styles and some of us have more common sense then others. I just want repect for who I am. What can I do if anything about this? My thoughts are to make short visits less often, and stay clear of my grandson so he can't touch me. As it is, we only see them every 2 months for a few hours. Please help.