My sister married in a civil ceremony and had a big church wedding within the next year. Everyone knew about it. Nobody felt cheated or tricked. We were irritated that we didn't t know about the civil ceremony until the next day but understood the reasons.
This young woman needs to sit down and think about what sort of person she is. She needs to realize that her husband's family and friends are angry and they have the right to their feelings. At least his mother and brother showed up. She should stop nagging him and start acting like a married woman who has made a lifetime commitment to a husband and not a boyfriend. Usually when a couple sits down with his or her parents to plan a wedding, his or her parents end up paying for it. This might make someone very upset if he found that he was tricked into paying for something under false pretenses. She sounds like someone who makes hasty decisions and then decides not to accept the responsibility. She has already caused a lot of trouble over her decision to marry in secret and to try to trick their families. She married in haste. Unless she wants to be a young divorcee she needs to sit down and decide how to act like an adult so she doesn't divorce in haste, too. She shouldn't throw away a good thing because of some problems that can be resolved.

Why did they elope if they were planning a big church wedding? And why lie about it? And she is now considering divorce becuase his family is upset? Ugh, sounds like another bridezilla who is just mad her princess for a day fantasy was ruined