Dear Annie,

Just read the letter signed "Slapped In The Face" and take exception to part of your response. Your response closed with the suggesstion of paying a portion of the son's child support if the parents felt they needed to still help out in some way. I believe the son should get NO help as long as he is supporting a deadbeat that is foul mouthed to boot! Furthermore, a man should be souly responsible for child support payments. If the children are in need the grandparents could directly meet those needs by giving gifts or money to the mother for those needs. Never should any gift given be credited to the father's child support. Maybe when the son figures out his friend is a drain on his resourses he will give him the boot. There are homeless shelters in most cities available if the homeless person agrees to live by the rules.

Thanks for letting me have my say.

Allan T Pelletier

I can understand why their son is divorced. At the age of 30 he didn't have a job or even a car! I know the economy is bad but McDonalds and Wendys are always hiring. Even after supplying him with a car and insurance his parents still pay some of his rent. These parents should stop their *help* and realize they raised a deadbeat. Cut off ALL financial support to him. With concerns to their grandchildren how about buying them their clothes, school lunches, groceries or pay their mom's electric bill? At least that helps out when their lazy dad doesn't pay to support the kids he helped make. STOP supporting the deadbeat you raised and worry about your grandchildren. But not by paying his child support. Let him get behind in child suppport and have him learn a lesson on responsibility. Missed child support never goes away and he will have to pay it sonner or later. Have these people learned nothing about themselves through the worthless son they raised?