Ladies, I'm getting really sick of reading 'Stay out of it' and 'Mind your own business'. Are you serious? Are you ladies completely incapable of coming up with anything else? Mind you, it is true that the letter writer may not have any power over what goes on in his sisters house. But if 'Ken' is considering moving in on his grandmother, than the letter writer does need to speak up. He should see if his state laws include anything about taking advantage of the elderly. The mom created this monster but that does not mean that Ken should go on to suck the life out of his grandmother. Hopefully the letter writer is not powerless to stop this.

Re: Datura, I fully agree with you, someone is hashing out the same old lame advice: none of your business. Just to add to your comments however, the nephew needs to go to AA and his family should stage an intervention to get him back into the game. Without prfessional help, he'll never learn how to cope on his own. His family should not have to put up with this, no matter where his alcoholism stems from.

Re: Marie-Claude. You and Datura are correct, but as is often pointed out: Ken, his mother, and his grandmother are not the ones who wrote in asking for advice. "Ken needs to do thus-and-so" may be satisfying to read, but it sounds like the guy is a shiftless bum who isn't interested in listening to the LW trying to get him to do anything. Other than calling the elder care people, there's not much she can do.

LW1: It might be good to offer a little skepticism about this aunt's description of her nephew. She describes him as a 29-year-old high school graduate who lives with his mother, a (pit bull) dog that his mother helps take care of, he's made some foolish choices, acquired debt, got himself injured in an accident, drinks too much, and so on. Yet, he has legal counsel who has advised him not to work while his insurance case is being settled. He may not be the most clever or ambitious kid in the world, but he takes care of the yard and does odd jobs for cash. In other words, he's listening to his attorney, trying to help out where he can, and has suffered an injury that makes it hard for him to work. If he can't climb a ladder, he hasn't really "recovered," has he?
Maybe the nephew has it coming, but his grandmother has offered to let him move in. Somebody still cares. LW1 seems quick to assume that whoever he lives with is just being taken advantage of, but I don't buy it. LW1 has no compassion at all for her nephew. She thinks the answer is kicking him out. She doesn't have a single positive suggestion for what he could be doing better. She looks at everything about him in the worst possible light from his dog to his education. I don't like her at all. Did she finish college? Did she do everything perfectly? Does she have a full-time job? Who the heck is she?