To Flustered Wife.....Annie, do you even know what a big problem this is becoming? Internet porn is a form of cheating and in most cases just looking at a few pictures leads to much more, my husband was addicted to the point we were becoming complete strangers. I had to catch him in the act of his internet affair to get him to seek help, this is a terrible addiction that will take over their minds, they live in a fantisy world. All spouces, exspecilly wives, should check on their husbands who use the internet! Been there!

To Flustered Wife... I believe that pornography on the internet is a huge problem that many snicker at. It is destroying relationships and breaking up families. It is an addiction like alchohol and drug addiction. Would you laugh about underage drinking or drunk driving? Would you laugh at drug use of a family member? Certainly not! Why do we not take pornography seriously? Overuse of pornography is devastating not to mention perverted and wrong. Many sexual crimes are a result of porn use by the offender. "Boys will be boys" is not an acceptable excuse for porn use. Boys will be men, spouses, father's, grandfathers, and leaders in the community someday. Porn will cripple the future for all if we don't take it seriously.

Regarding the last letter--I read some information on the bullies2buddies website, and some of it is absolute B.S!

I think some of you are over-reating to on-line porn. Pornography has been around forever in some format. When film first became available (pictures or movies), it wasn't just all wholesome or artistic shots - porn was captured then as well. With the advent of Playboy Magazine, porn became accessible to everyone (over a certain age). Pre-teens and teenagers always found ways to find hidden or discarded porn magazines. I guarantee you that the vast majority of those husbands, fathers, grandfathers and leaders of the community looked at porn at some point in their lives.

The internet does make porn more readily available, but it's not like it was that difficult before for a man to get a "Hustler" or pick up a XXX video. If a man has an addiction to porn, he will find a way to abuse it. But most men use it for mild titillation and fresh ideas. It may surprise you to learn that some men look at porn to become better lovers in the bedroom - in other words, they want to please their partners more! From what "Flustered Wife" wrote, it sounds just like this is occurring. Her husband is not cheating, but enjoying a bit of visual excitement and using that to be a better lover. If she suspects cheating, then she should address it - otherwise, she should enjoy the ride!