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For 10 years, I told my husband that he had sleep apnea. Finally, after my son and I did an imitation of what he sounded like when he snored, he had a sleep study done. The techs told him they knew he had S-A after only a couple of hours. Now, he has a C-Pap machine and sleeps much better. He won't travel without it. The LW may have to make the appointment and demand that he go. I think my telling my husband that I wanted to build our new house with separate bedrooms may have made the point, too.

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"Since you cannot force him to be courageous enough to face his fears, we suggest you sleep in another room and make sure his life insurance is paid up." That was a bit cold, don't you think ladies? The woman just wrote to you saying the "love of her life" is suffering and this is your parting words to her? The LW should start doing exercise with her husband, get him more active and start serving healthier meals. That should make his weight (and possibly heart problems and high cholesterol and high blood pressure levels go down). Smoking is a big part of the problem but unless he wants to quit, nothing she says or does can make him do this. I speak from experience, my husband smoked too. Give him sleeping strips to ease the airway for him to breathe more comfortably at night. She could also discuss the issue with HER doctor and ask for advice about what to do. I hope she follows MY advice and not just yours.

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We've all been around people who can sneeze, cough, yawn, burp, or even fart quietly unless they feel they're in a setting where they can "let it rip." What will usually change this is not responding to it. Not with words, not with a look, not running into the room. Nothing. You can only change your behaviour. It's often just a pathetic, childish demand for attention, although I'll admit to sneezing louder at home than at church. For those incensed on behalf of the woman whose husband farts at the table: no, it's not nice. But did he do it when they were dating? I have seen a lot of couples who didn't take into account habits that would absolutely drive them nuts in a matter of time. You can't do that. You can't expect people to change. I'll bet she laughed or ignored it while she was still eager to become Mrs. Somebody. You set boundaries immediately when you're starting a relationship, not when you're well into it. Same with Sleepless in Salem. You say you're newly married. You married a man who smoked and had poor vision. Now you want him to address these issues. Did you marry him thinking he'd quit? Smoking usually affects breathing, which affects activity, sometimes leading to weight gain, in addition to lung disease. You're not a kid. You married the whole package. You can evince concern and support, but you can't demand change.

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DEAR ANNIE I MIGHT HAVE TO GO TO SUMER SCHOOL I NEVER BENN TO IT ONLY THIS TIME WHAT DO I DO TO NOT GET SUMMER SCHOOL

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Re: ALYSSA--Go to summer school and focus on spelling, grammar, and punctuation. You don't say how old you are, but if you are older than 9, it looks like you need it. Summer school can be fun. I've taught summer school and the classes are smaller and you will get more individual attention. Also, they are usually over by noon, so you'll have your afternoons free.

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Do any of you have husbands who holler when they yawn? Mine recently had surgery, so every time he yawned both his daughter and I would tear into his room to see if he had fallen or something. He doesn't do this in public, so I know he can control it if he chooses. Any suggestions as to how to get him to stop "crying wolf"?