Annie's Mailbox®, December 5
by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar
Dear Annie: I'm a 25-year-old single woman whose best friend for the past 10 years has been a guy. "Tony" and I have a lot in common and enjoy hanging out and playing video games together. (I am a bit of a tomboy.) Whenever Tony gets a girlfriend, he always asks me what I think of her, and I do the same with my boyfriends. We have a brother-sister relationship. Our friendship has never been an issue when we are dating other people, which is great.
Here's the problem: It seems ...
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Posted by: Mary Busse
Comment: #1
Fri Dec 7, 2007 7:46 PM
Dear Annie:
In response to Frustrated in California whose best friend is a guy, I would like to tell her to enjoy her situation. My daughter's best friend is a guy. They have been pals since middle school, and now attend different colleges but not a day goes by that they don't e-mail or talk on the phone. They have gotten each other through all the ups and downs of growing up. They have given each other a different perspective on the opposite sex, and have kept each other out of trouble more than once! He is the brother she never had, and he is a member of our family, as she is a member of his. Best Friends are in the heart, no matter the gender.
Wyoming Mom
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Posted by: annetta
Comment: #2
Wed Dec 5, 2007 11:04 AM
dear annies mailbox:In response to your advice to mixed up ,pflag is an excellant organization and there are many people there who can help her.She needs someone with experiance to help her.However she should probably wait until she is 18 to tell her parents.some parents are not accepting and could even kick her out.Their are many homeless teens on the street for just that reason.she can call a local crisis center.They will refer her to others who can also help
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Posted by: Kaye
Comment: #3
Wed Dec 5, 2007 12:57 PM
Dear Annie,
In response to Mixed Up Child, the 15 year old who claims to be bisexual, why not inform him/her that he/she is too young to be havig sex. Of course he/she is confused. His/Her 15 year old mind is too young to handle this type of intimate relationship.
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Posted by: Joseph Sholl
Comment: #4
Wed Dec 5, 2007 7:17 AM
Dear Annie:
In response to Mixed-Up's letter and your response:
For someone as young as 15 to think that they are bisexual is not that uncommon. I might feel differently about your reply had she decidedly been a lesbian, but for you to suggest immediately visiting a website designed for gays and lesbians and their friends and families seems to be jumping the gun. I would imagine that any humble individual(s) would be able to recognize that assistance for a confused adolescent is not going to be covered in one or two paragraphs; however, to admit to this fact would possibly put you out of work.
My point is that many young females will find themselves attracted to boys as well as their girlfriends over the course of their young life. My wife can vouch for me on this. What this young woman needs is a discussion about her feelings to really understand what she is going through. Perhaps she will discover that her feelings toward the same sex are just a result of her close relationship with her friends and the fact that she sees that they are attractive girls. That doesn't necessarily mean that she is sexually attracted to them.
If she goes to the website you suggested and works out a way to tell her parents as though her mind/body is made up, it may close down the dialogue needed between her and her parents to sort out her feelings. She very well may come to the same conclusion that she is bisexual, but she is way too young to make that call without more help than a website designed to promote the sexual orientation she may or may not be.
Concerned for Mixed-Up
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