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Your Cowardly Behavior is Unforgivable
DR. WALLACE: Rosa and I had been dating for over seven months and we were quite serious. Then one evening, I did something stupid. We got into a heated argument, and it ended abruptly when she called me stupid. Then I slapped her so hard in the face that I broke her glasses and cut her nose. When I took her home, she said that she never wanted to see me again. That same night, her father called me and said that if I ever got near his daughter again, he would cause me great pain.
I really miss Rosa and I know that she misses me. There is no way she could instantly turn off the love she showed me. I'm truly sorry for my stupid mistake. I know that it is going to take a little more time before I get her back. I'm asking you how I'm going to succeed with this task. I know she will forgive me. — Nameless, Miami.
NAMELESS: Your cowardly behavior with your ex-girlfriend is unforgivable! You are fortunate that you didn't wind up in jail because you deserved it.
Don't waste your time pursuing Rosa. She's not going to return to you. Instead, spend your time taking an anger management class and then behave as a gentleman when you are in the company of a young lady again.
Consider yourself fortunate that Rosa's father only threatened you with "great pain." Some fathers wouldn't have been so lenient! Your act was criminal, not a mistake.
TEACHERS SHOULD SET AN EXAMPLE
DR. WALLACE: Last week, we had our basketball banquet in our high school cafeteria.
One of the parents called the school the next day complaining that her son was one of the players given beer. She is demanding that she talk with the coach, and she insists that he should be fired if he did bring the beer to the banquet.
The assistant coach is a popular teacher (physical education) and a good coach. Do you think that if he did bring the beer on campus that he should be fired? Or do you think (like most of the players) that he should be warned never to do that again, but be allowed to remain as a coach? Everybody is entitled to make a mistake one time. No one is perfect. — Nameless, Evansville, Ind.
NAMELESS: If, indeed, the coach brought beer on campus (error number one) and consumed it (error number two) and provided it to some of the basketball players (error number three), he should be released as a coach and as a physical education teacher. The coach showed extremely poor judgment. Teachers are supposed to set an example for students, not contaminate them.
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