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Tips on Sleeping


DR. WALLACE: I'm a very active teen, and my life is almost perfect except for one big problem. I have a hard time falling asleep. Any tips will be appreciated. — Nameless, Tupelo, Miss.

NAMELESS: I checked my files under the title "Sleeping," and found these tips gleaned from an article on insomnia. Here they are:

— Go to bed at the same time every night. Once it becomes a habit, it will automatically trigger a sleep response.

— Never read, write or eat in bed. Activity other than sleep that you associate with being in bed will encourage insomnia.

— Exercise or work out in the morning or afternoon. Overstimulation before bedtime may sabotage your sleep.

— Say no to coffee, tea, chocolate and cola drinks after dinner. A cup of warm milk? Yes.

— Sleep in the dark with all lights and radios off.

— If you wake up during the night, don't raid the refrigerator or watch the late-late show. These "rewards" will serve as an incentive to make a habit of waking.


DR. WALLACE: I am 16 and dating Jim, who is 17. When I met him, he was dating another girl, but he called me every night. Eventually, he asked me if I would go out with him if he stopped dating the girl. When I said yes, he broke up with Stacy and we started dating.

When he broke up with Stacy, they agreed to date once in a while. I also agreed to this arrangement.

Well, everything was going smoothly (Jim and Stacy dated about once a month) until Stacy told Jim that she didn't want to see him anymore; she was about to go out with Greg.

This upset Jim, and he said he would date only Stacy if she would take him back. Stacy told Jim it was over and that she no longer wanted to see him — ever!

Now whenever Jim and I are together, he only talks about Stacy and how he misses her. He says he cares for me, but he never shows it. Should I give him time to "find" himself, or should I tell him to get lost? — Gina, Kingman, Ariz.

GINA: Tell him to get lost and to stay lost!


DR. WALLACE: I'm a 19-year-old girl who made a stupid mistake three months ago, and now I need your advice. At the time, I allowed my boyfriend to talk me into getting a tattoo.

I got it on my right shoulder (a butterfly with my boyfriend's initials under it) and now I'm sorry I got it. First of all, I no longer go with the guy. I'm also embarrassed when I wear clothes or beachwear where the tattoo can be seen.

Please tell me where I can get the tattoo removed. Getting a tattoo was a very big mistake. — Courtney, Zanesville, Ohio.

COURTNEY: You have three choices. First, you can have the tattoo re-tattooed with a skin-colored tint. And the following choices require the skills of a dermatologist: Your tattoo can be removed by abrasion (sanding) or by a new method using a laser beam. Contact a dermatologist for a consultation.

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. E-mail him at To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at



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Gina's letter sounds made up. That's how people dated back in Dr. Wallace's time. People don't date like that anymore. If you are "dating" more than one perosn it isn't called dating, it's called having a friend of the opposite sex that you like to hang out with. Stop making up out-dated, old-fashioned letters, Dr. Wallace! You aren't fooling anyone!
Comment: #1
Posted by: jjmg
Thu Mar 31, 2011 12:02 PM
I know teens have new ways of talking - but they still feel the same as we ever did. It is surprising how little has changed. Gina may very well have been given this poor treatment by Jim who wants to eat his cake and have it, too. To Gina - stop seeing Jim, concentrate on your own self. Make the most of your future by being a great person according to your personality and interests and don't define yourself as part of a relationship.

Go for it, Gina.

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Comment: #2
Posted by: Miss Pasko
Thu Mar 31, 2011 1:20 PM
Also - I know Dr. Wallace's advice on sleeping includes NOT reading in bed, BUT:

May I recommend reading 'Ulysses', by James Joyce. I have been trying to read it for over 6 months. It is impossible to follow and puts me to sleep after just a page or two. Then the next night, I have to backtrack to try to find my place! LOL.
Comment: #3
Posted by: Miss Pasko
Thu Mar 31, 2011 1:22 PM
When "Gina" or any other teen talks to a relative they haven't seen in a while the question is not "So, do you have a friend of the opposite sex that you like to hang out with?" I'm not a teen anymore, but threr are enough kids in my family that I've seen icarly, suite life, etc. They all use the term dating when they are more than friends. Friends "hang out" and people who are more than friends "date".
There are times when letters sound fake, but this is not one of them.
Gina, dump the guy now. In the future do not get involved with guys with girlfriends. Also, if your guy wants to date other girls, be sure to date other guys. Don't just wait around to be his back up plan.
Comment: #4
Posted by: MT
Thu Mar 31, 2011 2:58 PM
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