DR. WALLACE: I'm 19 and seeing a girl who happens to be a very mature (both physically and mentally) 14. I met her at her cousin's wedding a few months ago. At the time we met, I thought Ellen was 16 or 17. I didn't find out she was 14 until I found out that she was in the ninth grade. By that time, I had fallen for her in a very big way. My parents have met her and know her true age. They think we are a very compatible couple and have told us that we are fortunate to have found each other. Ellen has told me that she loves me and that she will never love another guy as much as she loves me. I also have similar feelings for her.

Our problem is that her mother thinks that I'm much too old for her and won't let her go out with me any more. This is very difficult for us to abide by. Love is a strong emotion and can't be controlled. I feel that Ellen's mother is being unreasonable. I'm an honorable guy. I don't do drugs, drink or smoke, and I am not going to take away her daughter's virginity.

Since my parents are all for Ellen and I continuing our relationship, wouldn't it be prudent if her mom at least compromised and allowed us to date twice a month? I know you receive many letters from teens, but I really hope you answer mine because I want Ellen's mother to read your response because I know you are a fair-minded gentleman. —Bud, St. Louis, Mo.

BUD: I'd really like to give you a response that you could show Ellen's mother to help change her mind, but being a fair-minded gentleman, I must remind you that the only person who counts in this drama is Ellen's mother. It's nice that your parents like Ellen and want you both to continue the relationship, but what they think doesn't count.

I also happen to agree with Ellen's mother. You are too old for her, so honor her request and "hit the road." Somewhere along your journey you will discover a young lady who will think you are her "knight in shining armor," and she will be no younger than 17.

THEY ARE ENVIOUS OF YOU

DR. WALLACE: I'm in the seventh grade and get excellent grades. I feel that my grades are very important because I'm going to be a veterinarian after I finish my education. In one of my classes, (social studies), I'm designated as a teacher's aide. That means at times I will do errands for the teacher and once in a while I'll actually grade student tests that have true or false answers. I like the class and enjoy helping the teacher.

Some of the students call me names such as "teacher's pet" and "traitor."

This is the only negative thing about helping this teacher. What should I do because I don't enjoy being called names, especially traitor? —Nameless, Santa Rosa, Calif.

NAMELESS: Those immature students who call you names are actually envious, and if asked to be the teacher's aide, they would jump at the opportunity. Do not confront the name callers. That's exactly the reaction they are trying to achieve; just smile and go on your merry way.

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. Email him at [email protected]. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.