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DR. WALLACE: I enjoy singing. I sing at home all the time. My mother, who plays the piano when I sing, thinks I have a lovely voice.

Last week, I tried out for our church choir. I had to sing a cappella. They wouldn't allow my mother to accompany me on the piano. I was nervous, but I thought I did a pretty good job. My mother thought so, too.

Yesterday, they posted the new choir members. My mother and I went to the church, and we were shocked to find out that I didn't make the list. My mom called the choir director who told her that my voice was "immature" and that I should try out again next year. My mom got mad. She told him that his head was immature and that we were going to find a new church.

Now my dad is upset with my mother because he has been attending this church since he was a child. He thinks my mother is wrong, and my mother thinks she's right for sticking up for me because I don't have an "immature" voice. I'm 13 and my voice is clear as a bell. Who do you think is right, my mother or my father? No lectures are needed. — Sara, Memphis, Tenn.

SARA: I agree with your father!

SAY GOODBYE AND WISH HIM WELL

DR. WALLACE: I'm 15 and the guy that I'm dating is 16, and I'm positive he has a drinking problem. He drinks three or four beers daily — and I mean daily! His older brother supplies the beer.

Phil gets mad when I tell him that I think that he's an alcoholic.

He says he is too young to be one and that he could stop drinking any time. He also says he never really gets drunk — and that's true. But I think a person can be addicted to alcohol and not get totally smashed. Is this true? — Nameless, Nashua, N.H.

NAMELESS: Children as young as 10 have been classified as alcoholics, according to the National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. And, yes, a person can be addicted to alcohol and never get totally drunk.

Give your boyfriend a choice — alcohol or you. Don't be surprised, however, if he chooses you but continues to drink. If that's the case, tell him goodbye and wish him well.

GOING BAREFOOT IS GOOD

DR. WALLACE: I love to go "barefoot" whenever I get the chance. My dad keeps telling me that I'll wind up with flat feet because not wearing shoes puts pressure on the arches of my feet. I don't think so, do you? — Amy, Goshen, Ind.

AMY: Just the opposite is true. Going without shoes contributes to the development of ligaments, muscles and bones in the foot. According to Dr. Alvin Crawford of Children's Hospital in Cincinnati, people who walk or run barefoot on a level surface are less prone to sprained ankles. The only real danger of going barefoot is stepping on a sharp object.

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. E-mail him at rwallace@galesburg.net. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.

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The first LW reminds me of those auditioners for American Idol, where their parents swear they sound like angels and the rest of us think they sound like someone stepping on a cat with strep throat. Be happy he only said your voice was "immature".
Comment: #1
Posted by: Sarah
Sun Oct 11, 2009 6:29 PM
Oh! the Choir! Years ago I sang in the choir. There was one woman who could not carry a tune, and when she sang she warbbled---not like a bird---like stones beinging turned over in a blender, we said. It was awful! But, any and all were welcomed to the choir. I moved away, and have often wondered what happed to that woman.
Tho I was only 16 and she was an older woman, I am sure she died years ago.
Comment: #2
Posted by: Ann Powell
Sun Nov 7, 2010 4:25 AM
LW1: I can identify with audition nerves. I'm a skilled, experienced singer in groups, but have had a couple of disastrous solo auditions.

Why don't you talk to your choir director? Unless your mother has completely wrecked it for you, there's no harm in explaining your shyness issues, asking the choir director to give you another chance, or even just listen to you sing a few bars under conditions less stressful than a formal audition. If you can't do that, audition again next year, but your mother's inappropriate response only took things from disappointing to terrible. Your father is right.
Comment: #3
Posted by: LouisaFinnell
Sun Jul 3, 2011 4:53 PM
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