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Alcoholics Can Never be Social Drinkers
DR. WALLACE: My father is definitely an alcoholic. He continues to work only because his boss is his best friend. I even heard the boss tell my dad that if he didn't cut down on his alcohol consumption, he might be forced to fire him.
The problem is …Read more.
Wearing a Seat Belt can Save a Life
DR. WALLACE: This letter is directed to teens who travel in a motor vehicle. Please buckle up, regardless of where you sit or how short the trip might be. Several weeks ago, I stopped at the scene of a violent automobile crash. Having medical …Read more.
Vibrating Belts do not Melt Body Fat
DR. WALLACE: I'm 17 and have excess fat on my upper legs, commonly known among females as "saddle bags." I've tried every kind of exercise possible to eliminate this fat, but nothing has worked.
A friend told me that her mother got rid of …Read more.
Marijuana Use is Unhealthy and Unwise
DR. WALLACE: I'm 19 and have been smoking marijuana for over five years. A close friend introduced me to "pot" and I am thankful that he did. I truly enjoy getting high on "weed." I only use marijuana when I am positive that …Read more.
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I'm 15 and Developed Better than Most 21-Year-OldsDR. WALLACE: I'm a very mature 15-year-old young woman. I'm a bright student and physically developed better than most 21-year-old women. I enjoy reading classical novels, listening to classical music and engaging in stimulating conversation. I also enjoy being in the company of guys who can discuss things other than who is the best band or the best football team. Dating guys other than my classmates is the only chance I have of being a happy teen. I have a library pass that allows me to use the library at Coe College, which is only two blocks from my house. Several guys at Coe have shown interest in spending more time with me. I would really like to get to know them better. They know that I'm still in high school, but they think I'm 17 or 18. I didn't tell them my true age because it might cause them to shy away from me. I'm 15 chronologically, but a lot older in every other way. I discussed dating guys my mental age with my parents, but they won't allow it. My father is a professor at Coe and Mom is an attorney, so they should be aware that boys my age or a year or two older just don't cut it. Dr. Wallace, I'm physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually ready to date older guys. Is there anything else that I lack? — Nameless, Cedar Rapids, Iowa. NAMELESS: You seem to have all the qualifications needed to date someone four or five years older than you except one — experience! Your parents are right. Dating college guys at your age is completely inappropriate. I'm certain there are boys at your high school who share your mature qualifications. Find one! DON'T FALL FOR "I'VE CHANGED" DR. The last time I was with these guys when he called, I lied and told him I was with my girlfriends. Then he asked to talk with one of them. When I told him that none of them wanted to talk with him, he hung up. The next day he lectured me for an hour about not lying and why I felt it necessary to have male friends. I'm tired of being interrogated and not trusted by this guy. I probably should stop seeing him, but when things are right with us, I do like him and enjoy being with him. Please give me your advice on what I should do. — Nameless, Hammond, La. NAMELESS: Tell this guy goodbye. He has crossed over the line from taking an interest in your life to attempting to control it. This is completely unacceptable and, in all likelihood, will only get worse. That's the nature of jealousy and possessiveness. If one partner in a relationship shows a lack of respect for the other, the relationship can only fall apart. When you tell him the news, don't fall for his "I've changed" sob story and take him back. People with controlling personalities don't change without psychological counseling. Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. E-mail him at rwallace@galesburg.net. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS.COM
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