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How Will I Know When I'm in Love?DR. WALLACE: I'm 16 and have been dating a really nice guy. We've been going out for about a year. My problem is that I can't decide if I love him. I really do care for him, but I don't know if my feelings are what you would call love. Other girls are always saying they are in love or they are falling in love, but I can't really say that right now. I guess I must not be in love, but my question is, how will I know when I'm really, truly, 100 percent in love? How will I feel? — Nameless, Willmar, Minn. NAMELESS: Crushes come and go, and that's most likely what the other girls are talking about. These are passing fancies, based on virtually no knowledge of the other person. True love is grounded in respect, admiration and caring for the other person. Love grows with time, as your knowledge of this person deepens. When you are really, truly, 100 percent in love, you will know it because your whole life will feel transformed. You won't need anyone to tell you how it feels, least of all me. COLLEGE STUDENT HAS THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE A BOYFRIEND DR. WALLACE: Last year, my parents "encouraged" me to stop seeing my boyfriend because we were becoming too serious. I did what they asked because my father is a respected minister in our community and I didn't want to cause a family feud. My boyfriend and I stay in touch, but we do not go out with each other. Both of us will be attending Indiana University in September. We will both be majoring in elementary education, so I'm positive we will have several classes together. We also plan to renew our relationship then, since we will be 18 and considered adults who are completely capable of making our own good decisions.
NAMELESS: A college student certainly has the right to choose her own boyfriend. I would urge you to let your parents know that he's still in the picture, simply because it's far better that your renewed relationship not come as a surprise to them. TEEN LOSES BEST FRIEND AND BOYFRIEND DR. WALLACE: Margo was my best friend and Chad was my boyfriend. She is boy crazy and he likes to flirt. Margo made goo-goo eyes at Chad and now they are dating. So now I've lost my best friend and my boyfriend at the same time. What can I do to get over this lonely and depressed feeling? — Tanya, Pasadena, Calif. TANYA: Losing your boyfriend to your best pal is like getting a double kick in the shins. I don't blame you for feeling depressed. However, people that cavalier about loyalty aren't really worth having in your life. The best way to get over the blues is to throw yourself enthusiastically into activities. Don't sit home feeling sorry for yourself. Get involved in school and community events and vow to make new friends. Their company will soon make you forget about Margo and Chad, and eventually you'll realize that you're well rid of them both. Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. E-mail him at rwallace@galesburg.net. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2010 CREATORS.COM
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