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Do You Take This Man -- and His Mother and Her Three Husbands -- to be Your Husband?
Nobody comes to a relationship with a clean slate. We're all products of our past relationships, those of our parents and our grandparents, etc.
Take Courtney and Tommy for example.
Tommy's mother, Crystal, was married to Tommy's father, John. When …Read more.
It Really Is the Thought That Counts
Anybody can give chocolates and roses for Valentine's Day, but let's hear it for the guys with the nerve to give pliers, an oven mitt or a bottle of bubbles.
SALLY: For our first Valentine's Day, my husband gave me a "corn cob" toilet …Read more.
Single Mom Needs Security in New Relationship
Dear Cheryl,
I'm 37 and I have two kids. I've been dating this guy for two months. I really like him, and I think he likes me. When we're together, everything is great. We're so in sync, it's scary. We have the same opinions on food, music, movies, …Read more.
Valentine's Day Redux, Redux
Today's column features some lucky couples and one ungrateful woman.
SAMANTHA: My husband and I celebrate Valentine's Day, but nothing over the top. If I were to let him out of it, he'd stop in a heartbeat. If I had my way, we'd celebrate more. But …Read more.
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When a Friend With Benefits Turns Into a FriendDear Cheryl, I went online to find a friend with benefits. I didn't want to get serious at this stage in my life. I got responses from a lot of freakos, then I actually found one man whom I wanted to meet. The sparks flew! We had a few very nice evenings, and then what do you think happened? We actually became great friends! He's turned out to be the best friend I've had in a long time. We see each other three or four times a week. I know where he works, where he lives, pretty much all there is to know about him. The problem? Now that we're friends, the sparks are gone — on his part. I'm at a loss as to what's going on. I don't think he's sleeping with other people because he works a lot, and when he's not, he calls me. What do you think? — Baffled Dear Baffled, Maybe the reason he was online looking for a friend with benefits rather than a real relationship is because he knows he's fickle and enjoys newness more than intimacy. Maybe he isn't comfortable having sex with someone he actually likes. Maybe combining sex and friendship is too much like a relationship — with all that entails — and he doesn't want. Maybe he's just not that into you any more. It doesn't really matter why the sexual part of your relationship is over. Just accept it. If you can, you've got a great friend. Dear Cheryl, I'm 6 feet, 1 inch and completely in love with a man who is 5 feet, 5 inches. I used to think that I had to be with a man who was my height or taller, but as I got older I became more comfortable with my height.
People like to stare at us — especially if I'm in high heels — but I know how much of a man he is, and together we make a gorgeous couple. — Who Says We're Lopsided? Dear WSWLS? Not me. If people chucked their preconceived notions about whom they should date, they'd broaden their experiences, increase their options and have a much better chance finding Mr. or Ms. Right. Readers: Several men recently disagreed with me because I didn't like the idea of a 56-year-old engaged man (with a history of cheating) being very friendly with a 31-year-old woman. (He has her picture on his computer, but he doesn't have one of his fiance.) These men said he was just mentoring her. One man even suggested that "the tension and flirty energy" in his relationship with the 31-year-old might actually help his relationship with his fiance ... Eliza: Exactly what do these guys mean by mentoring? Sounds like it's the new buzzword that attempts to pass off a possibly inappropriate relationship as acceptable. The "tension and flirty energy" that one reader suggested is not going anywhere good. What's happening is that the 31-year-old is after him, and he finds it flattering. What the heck! He'll be 60-years-old with two kids under the age of five. He'll be lucky if he's done raising them when he's 80! Say goodbye to retirement! Got a problem? Send it to cheryllavin@aol.com. And check out my blog www.talesfromthefront.com. To find out more about Cheryl Lavin, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS.COM
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