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Do You Take This Man -- and His Mother and Her Three Husbands -- to be Your Husband?
Nobody comes to a relationship with a clean slate. We're all products of our past relationships, those of our parents and our grandparents, etc.
Take Courtney and Tommy for example.
Tommy's mother, Crystal, was married to Tommy's father, John. When …Read more.
It Really Is the Thought That Counts
Anybody can give chocolates and roses for Valentine's Day, but let's hear it for the guys with the nerve to give pliers, an oven mitt or a bottle of bubbles.
SALLY: For our first Valentine's Day, my husband gave me a "corn cob" toilet …Read more.
Single Mom Needs Security in New Relationship
Dear Cheryl,
I'm 37 and I have two kids. I've been dating this guy for two months. I really like him, and I think he likes me. When we're together, everything is great. We're so in sync, it's scary. We have the same opinions on food, music, movies, …Read more.
Valentine's Day Redux, Redux
Today's column features some lucky couples and one ungrateful woman.
SAMANTHA: My husband and I celebrate Valentine's Day, but nothing over the top. If I were to let him out of it, he'd stop in a heartbeat. If I had my way, we'd celebrate more. But …Read more.
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She Wants Him Back -- Why?Dear Cheryl, Shane and I lived together for five of the eight years we were together. During all that time, he was still married to his wife, Jade. He recently went back to her. I'm still deeply in love with him, and I believe he's still in love with me. When we were together, his daughters wouldn't have anything to do with him. Now that he's back home, they see him again. When we were together, Jade would do horrible things and blame them on me. She'd listen to his voicemails, write things on his windows and leave embarrassing stuff in his driveway. She would also call and threaten me. He finally caught her. She admitted to doing 95 percent of it. He believes I had something to do with the other 5 percent. One day, he'll find out I would never do such things. Anyway, since he left me a month ago, we talk a lot and text one another. He's come to my place at least 11 times. He says he's only had sex with Jade one time since he's been living with her. She follows him everywhere. She found us at a motel 35 miles away, and I really don't know how. She's very sneaky. Shane can't go anywhere without her wanting to go with. I know he still cares deeply for me and not Jade. I don't want anyone else. What can I do? — Who's the Third Wheel Here? Dear Who's the Third Wheel Here? Let's say you get your wish. Shane moves back in, and everything is like it was. What have you got? A man who's still married to another (crazy) woman and has no intentions of divorcing her no matter how sick, twisted and manipulative she is. I want better for you. Shane and Jade have some kind of crazy can't-live-with-each-other, can't-live-without-each-other deal going.
You need to find out why you're fighting so hard to hold on to something that's really rotten. Do whatever it takes — books, therapy, self-help groups — to convince yourself that you deserve better. Ending it completely with Shane is the first step to a healthy, happy life. Good luck, and keep in touch. ARE SOME RELATIONSHIPS MEANT TO BE? Readers, Can't Let Go of a Good Thing recently wondered if some relationships are meant to be. Here are your thoughts ... Jillian: I believe all relationships are meant to be. Everything, whether good or bad, happens for a reason. Bad relationships teach us a lesson, and good ones nurture us. Everyone has a "special someone" out there. You somehow know him, recognize his ways and realize that what you feel is unconditional love. The best part is he feels the same way. Gloria: If it were true that some romantic relationships were meant to be, then it would mean that God or some other higher power ruled our lives, and that's nonsensical. But there is such a thing as destiny. However, there are evil people in the world who, out of jealousy or other wicked motives, plot to tear people asunder, and sometimes they succeed, thus destroying fate's original plan. Whether it's for your ultimate good or bad, only time will tell. Also, you may have been destined to meet a certain person, but that doesn't necessarily mean you were fated to marry him and live happily ever after. Got a problem? Send it to cheryllavin@aol.com. You can visit her blog at www.talesfromthefront.com. To find out more about Cheryl Lavin, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS.COM
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