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Does Sex Entitle You to Anything?
Catch 37 recently wrote in. She'd been dating and sleeping with a guy for two months. He seems to love everything about her, including how "easygoing" she is.
The problem is she's not as easygoing as he thinks she is. He'll call several …Read more.
Do You Take This Man -- and His Mother and Her Three Husbands -- to be Your Husband?
Nobody comes to a relationship with a clean slate. We're all products of our past relationships, those of our parents and our grandparents, etc.
Take Courtney and Tommy for example.
Tommy's mother, Crystal, was married to Tommy's father, John. When …Read more.
It Really Is the Thought That Counts
Anybody can give chocolates and roses for Valentine's Day, but let's hear it for the guys with the nerve to give pliers, an oven mitt or a bottle of bubbles.
SALLY: For our first Valentine's Day, my husband gave me a "corn cob" toilet …Read more.
Single Mom Needs Security in New Relationship
Dear Cheryl,
I'm 37 and I have two kids. I've been dating this guy for two months. I really like him, and I think he likes me. When we're together, everything is great. We're so in sync, it's scary. We have the same opinions on food, music, movies, …Read more.
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More Reasons Why Bewildered's Husband Forgot Her PillsBewildered was the woman whose husband failed to pick up her medication when he picked up his own even though he'd been doing it for seven years. No wonder she was Bewildered. I suggested several possible reasons for his behavior. Everything from he wanted her dead to he was distracted by his girlfriend's pregnancy. Here's what you had to say ... Mitch: He was thinking that every time his wife is running low on pills, she calls the doctor. He was thinking that if she needed pills, then she must have called the doctor. If she didn't, then she didn't need pills. (Nice try, Mitch. But they both ran out of pills every month at the same time! ) Tyler: I would say it was probably: 1) He was having a senior moment, 2) he wasn't thinking, 3) he was distracted because he owes the mob money. Anytime I mess up, any or all three could apply! Andrew: Wow! No offense, Cheryl, but what a typical female response! News flash! Men go through changes, too! Women have PMS, the actual period itself, biological clocks and heaven knows what else to explain their mood swings, all well documented and widely discussed by mainstream medicine. All we men have is "old," "cranky," "cantankerous," "moody" and, well, you get the picture. There's got to be at least one male physician out there who can come up with a medical name — something that's acceptable and catchy — to justify our changing behavior. (How about male pattern obliviousness?) Greta: Bewildered's husband was thinking his usual selfish, self-centered thoughts, which he had apparently previously succeeded in partially or completely hiding from his wife.
Janice: He probably had someone else call, and they didn't know that Bewildered usually ordered pills for both of you. (This would be a great excuse, if Bewildered's husband had a secretary who made his calls. He doesn't.) Brenda: He wasn't thinking anything. Men are not naturally caregivers. That's why so few of them are moms! Several years ago, I was laid up after surgery. My husband cared for me for several days, doing whatever I asked of him. On the first day he went back to work, he arrived home late, with take-out food for his dinner. No food for me. All I'd eaten that day was a granola bar because that was all the food he'd left within my reach. He was stupefied by how incredibly hurt and angry I was. My husband is the kindest, most generous and patient person I know. He is a true blessing to me in many ways. If I asked him to jump off the roof for me, he would gladly do it. It just would never occur to him to do it without being asked. Most guys aren't malicious jerks. They just aren't wired to think of others first. Instead of getting hurt by that kind of behavior, I chalk it up to cluelessness and remember to state my needs more clearly next time! (Brenda, I'm in awe of you! You're the most understanding woman I've ever heard of! Most women would have slugged the guy over the head with whatever they could reach!) How do you and your partner handle finances? Send your tale, along with your questions and problems to cheryllavin@aol.com. And be sure to visit my blog at www.talesfromthefront.com. To find out more about Cheryl Lavin, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS.COM
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