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Does Sex Entitle You to Anything?
Catch 37 recently wrote in. She'd been dating and sleeping with a guy for two months. He seems to love everything about her, including how "easygoing" she is.
The problem is she's not as easygoing as he thinks she is. He'll call several …Read more.
Do You Take This Man -- and His Mother and Her Three Husbands -- to be Your Husband?
Nobody comes to a relationship with a clean slate. We're all products of our past relationships, those of our parents and our grandparents, etc.
Take Courtney and Tommy for example.
Tommy's mother, Crystal, was married to Tommy's father, John. When …Read more.
It Really Is the Thought That Counts
Anybody can give chocolates and roses for Valentine's Day, but let's hear it for the guys with the nerve to give pliers, an oven mitt or a bottle of bubbles.
SALLY: For our first Valentine's Day, my husband gave me a "corn cob" toilet …Read more.
Single Mom Needs Security in New Relationship
Dear Cheryl,
I'm 37 and I have two kids. I've been dating this guy for two months. I really like him, and I think he likes me. When we're together, everything is great. We're so in sync, it's scary. We have the same opinions on food, music, movies, …Read more.
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Men: You Can't Make Them Love You or Make Love to You!Dear Cheryl, Men seem to think that women are less interested in sex than they are. WRONG! I've had several relationships where I had a sexual appetite that was much larger than my boyfriend's. For instance, after sex, when I was interested in an encore, my partner would say something like: "Aren't you satisfied? What's wrong with you?" I've been called a nymphomaniac. Can you believe that? And I've been accused of cheating because, since I have such a huge appetite, then I must be getting sex elsewhere. I've had men suggest that I bring a girlfriend to the bedroom. Once, I replied: "Why? So you could have two unsatisfied women?" No wonder I'm single, huh? — Lusty Dear Lusty, (Attention Male Readers, I cannot give you Lusty's email address.) Two of the many myths about sex are that men want it more than women and that men want it all the time. As you've learned — the not-so-hard way — they're not always true. So, the only advice I can give you is keeping looking. One day you'll find a man whose sexual appetite matches yours. And then, good luck to both of you! Dear Cheryl, I've been dating a nice guy and was relatively happy till a few months ago. I'm in my early 50s and he's 60. Four months ago, his blood pressure was high and his doctor put him on medication. (Poor baby's in real estate, self-employed, no insurance.) The result? He can't maintain an erection like before. His solution? No more sex. I've been patient and understanding. I've done everything I can to be more seductive.
My question is: Shouldn't he have sex with me just to make me happy? Seriously, I've heard men say to a pregnant wife that even if they can't have intercourse anymore, there are still things that they can do. So, just because my boyfriend can't have intercourse, he could do something! Coitus is out, but there are other ways to pleasure a partner. I think he's being selfish. Our relationship is at a low. — His Blood Pressure May Be Low, but My Blood Is Boiling! Dear HBPMBLBMBIB! Let's look at this from his point of view. He's got high blood pressure. That's not good. He's got no health insurance. That's really not good. He's in real estate. In this economy? That's really bad. And now he can't maintain an erection? Ouch! Pleasing you is probably the last thing on his mind. If you're interested in having a long-term relationship with him, then forget about sex for a while. What you're doing — with the fancy lingerie, sex talk and aggressive behavior — is just adding to his stress. Give him a chance to adjust to his health issues. Continue being patient and loving. After a month or so, ask him how he's feeling. Ask him when he thinks he'll be ready to resume sexual contact. If he hasn't discussed his erection difficulties with his doctor, suggest he do so. Let him know you care about him and that he's not dealing with this alone. At that point, you should be in a better position to know what if anything he's willing to do to satisfy you and whether it's enough for you. Stay in touch. Got a problem? Send it to cheryllavin@aol.com. And check out my blog www.talesfromthefront.com. To find out more about Cheryl Lavin, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2010 CREATORS.COM
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