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Does Sex Entitle You to Anything?
Catch 37 recently wrote in. She'd been dating and sleeping with a guy for two months. He seems to love everything about her, including how "easygoing" she is.
The problem is she's not as easygoing as he thinks she is. He'll call several …Read more.
Do You Take This Man -- and His Mother and Her Three Husbands -- to be Your Husband?
Nobody comes to a relationship with a clean slate. We're all products of our past relationships, those of our parents and our grandparents, etc.
Take Courtney and Tommy for example.
Tommy's mother, Crystal, was married to Tommy's father, John. When …Read more.
It Really Is the Thought That Counts
Anybody can give chocolates and roses for Valentine's Day, but let's hear it for the guys with the nerve to give pliers, an oven mitt or a bottle of bubbles.
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Single Mom Needs Security in New Relationship
Dear Cheryl,
I'm 37 and I have two kids. I've been dating this guy for two months. I really like him, and I think he likes me. When we're together, everything is great. We're so in sync, it's scary. We have the same opinions on food, music, movies, …Read more.
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Long-Distance Friend With BenefitsI've written you several times in the past and have followed your advice each time. It may not have been what I wanted to hear, but it was what I needed. So now I'm in a new dilemma. I met a guy, and we live in separate states, so we're trying out a long-distance relationship. He feels we should wait a year and then see how things are going before we decide which state we're going to live in. My problem is he's a great Southern boy and not a phone person. Because he's pretty much of a cowboy, the Internet is not something he's comfortable with, so our only way to communicate is on the phone or texting. He never sits still, either, so our communication is hit or miss — whenever he has the time to chat. He's good friends with my parents, and they see him all the time. It's a small town, so I know he isn't doing anything wrong. My question is: How do I get him to want to talk more? How do you learn about someone if you aren't talking? He feels that relationship stuff should be talked about face-to-face not over the phone. He's scheduled to be here in three weeks for a visit, but I don't want to have to wait for our visits to learn more about him. How do I get him to call more or even text more? — Phone Deprived Dear Phone Deprived, I'm afraid this is going to be another one of those answers you don't want to hear. Here it is: You can't make someone want to talk to you. And this guy doesn't. In fact, it doesn't seem as if he's much interested in having a relationship at all.
When he comes to visit — if he comes to visit — be honest with him and ask him to be honest with you. Make sure you want the same things — otherwise you're in for some heartache. Keep in touch. Dear Cheryl, A few months ago, I met someone new. The months that followed were wonderful. We spent days hanging out. On the days we couldn't see each other, we'd talk. I started having feelings for her. My family and the friend that I've talked to tell me she's interested in me. But things have change. We haven't seen each other for a few weeks. The phone calls have stopped, too. The last time I talked to her, I asked if she wanted to do something. She said that she was busy the rest of the month. (Before I go on any further, I swear I don't call her every day or go to her office to see if she's working or drive past her house to see if she's home.) I don't know what happen. I believe she enjoyed spending time with me. What am I supposed to do? I don't want to give up on her or the friendship. — Confused Dear Confused, It's very simple. She lost interest in you. Maybe an old boyfriend showed up. Maybe a new guy came on the scene. It doesn't matter. There's nothing you can do. She's gone, and so is the friendship. Get on with your life. Go out, have fun, make new friends. Don't dwell on her. Good luck, and stay in touch. Cheryl Lavin may be reached at cheryllavin@aol.com. You can visit her blog at www.talesfromthefront.com. To find out more about Cheryl Lavin, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS.COM
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