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Do You Take This Man -- and His Mother and Her Three Husbands -- to be Your Husband?
Nobody comes to a relationship with a clean slate. We're all products of our past relationships, those of our parents and our grandparents, etc.
Take Courtney and Tommy for example.
Tommy's mother, Crystal, was married to Tommy's father, John. When …Read more.
It Really Is the Thought That Counts
Anybody can give chocolates and roses for Valentine's Day, but let's hear it for the guys with the nerve to give pliers, an oven mitt or a bottle of bubbles.
SALLY: For our first Valentine's Day, my husband gave me a "corn cob" toilet …Read more.
Single Mom Needs Security in New Relationship
Dear Cheryl,
I'm 37 and I have two kids. I've been dating this guy for two months. I really like him, and I think he likes me. When we're together, everything is great. We're so in sync, it's scary. We have the same opinions on food, music, movies, …Read more.
Valentine's Day Redux, Redux
Today's column features some lucky couples and one ungrateful woman.
SAMANTHA: My husband and I celebrate Valentine's Day, but nothing over the top. If I were to let him out of it, he'd stop in a heartbeat. If I had my way, we'd celebrate more. But …Read more.
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Is His Wife Walking? Or Is She Walking Away?I've been married for 22 years and have three children. The youngest is 18. My wife is 48. She was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2007. It was diagnosed early, and she's doing very well. However, the first plastic surgeon did a terrible job on the reconstruction, and she's had three more surgeries to try to fix his mistakes. In the same year she was diagnosed, she had a hysterectomy and quit smoking after 33 years. I was there for her through all of it. My business suffered greatly, but we came through. I believe we're still in love. But we've drifted apart. Part is my fault. I didn't realize my wife's needs. I've always thought I was doing things for her and the family, but I now realize they were more for me. We started living separate lives. I started collecting rifles without her knowledge. I found a forum geared to rifles, and spent more and more time on the Internet. She turned to Internet forums to help her quit smoking. Her forum has guys and gals, and she's become friends with both men and women. I've told her that I don't like her having contact with men, but I can tolerate it. My wife started training for the three-day breast cancer walk in San Diego a year ago. I would walk with her occasionally, but I have a business to run, so it's hard for me to walk with her as much as I'd like. When she walked on her own at the beach, she started meeting different guys. If they crossed paths, they'd walk together.
Well, one of the men gave my wife his business card, and they're now emailing each other. This has made me very uncomfortable. I've let her know that I don't like it. This caused a further rift. We spent four weeks pretty much away from each other. During this time, she asked me if I had any guns. Of course I told her the truth. That was a huge burden lifted off of me. We've started marriage counseling this week, and I hope it will help us. But I want your thoughts about my feelings toward these men. — Am I a Jealous Husband or a Concerned Spouse? Dear AIAJHOACS? First of all, I think therapy is a great idea for any couple going through something as traumatic as breast cancer. One of the issues I hope you'll discuss is your wife's self-image. Is it possible she doesn't know if she's still attractive and needs affirmation from other men? There must be women walking as well as men. Why isn't she emailing any of them? Another is your jealousy. Do you have any reason to be suspicious? Has your wife ever cheated? Do you think she might be cheating now? In the meantime, it might be a good idea for you to meet her walking buddies and their wives. If you do things together as couples, you might feel less threatened by them. Good luck with your counseling, and stay in touch. Let me know how it's going! Got a problem? Send it to cheryllavin@aol.com. And check out my blog www.talesfromthefront.com. To find out more about Cheryl Lavin, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2010 CREATORS.COM
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