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Do You Take This Man -- and His Mother and Her Three Husbands -- to be Your Husband?
Nobody comes to a relationship with a clean slate. We're all products of our past relationships, those of our parents and our grandparents, etc.
Take Courtney and Tommy for example.
Tommy's mother, Crystal, was married to Tommy's father, John. When …Read more.
It Really Is the Thought That Counts
Anybody can give chocolates and roses for Valentine's Day, but let's hear it for the guys with the nerve to give pliers, an oven mitt or a bottle of bubbles.
SALLY: For our first Valentine's Day, my husband gave me a "corn cob" toilet …Read more.
Single Mom Needs Security in New Relationship
Dear Cheryl,
I'm 37 and I have two kids. I've been dating this guy for two months. I really like him, and I think he likes me. When we're together, everything is great. We're so in sync, it's scary. We have the same opinions on food, music, movies, …Read more.
Valentine's Day Redux, Redux
Today's column features some lucky couples and one ungrateful woman.
SAMANTHA: My husband and I celebrate Valentine's Day, but nothing over the top. If I were to let him out of it, he'd stop in a heartbeat. If I had my way, we'd celebrate more. But …Read more.
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Is Herpes a Big Deal?Dear Cheryl, I, like millions of people, have genital herpes. As soon as I tell a potential partner, most back off — and some have told me to go to a herpes dating site. Does that mean that people in wheelchairs should only date people in wheelchairs? Or that nurses should only date doctors? Or that people from New York should only marry people from New York? Please tell everybody that having herpes just means that safe sex precautions must be taken. And to all who turned away from me as a friend or potential husband, you are infected with the worst medical condition on earth: ignorance! — Herpes Shmerpes Dear Herpes Shmerpes, You're taking this thing way too casually. Yes, millions of people have herpes. But a potential partner still has the right not to want to take a chance of adding himself to that number. I'm sincerely happy that you've made peace with your condition, but it's still an incurable disease that affects some far worse than others. Herpes is a devastating diagnosis, and I can't fault anyone for not wanting to expose himself. Even safe sex isn't 100 percent foolproof. All that aside, millions of people with herpes find partners, with and without the disease. If you're having trouble, it might be because you're acting like it's no big deal. It is. Dear Cheryl, I've got a dilemma. My ex-spouse is having medical problems and will need someone to care for him while he undergoes surgery on his shoulder and hips. We were married for 21 years, divorced for six. The divorce was amicable, and we've remained friends all these years. I'm considering reuniting with him for caretaking purposes.
I've told him that I would like to be his caretaker, but he hasn't answered. He says he's trying to decide what the right thing to do is. I know that I'd be OK living with him and wouldn't try to force any relationship other than being his caretaker. I'm also disabled, with multiple sclerosis, and I actually need someone to live with me because I'm living on disability and need health insurance. The only down side for me is he lives in Arizona and I live in Oregon. I'd have to move. I don't like the heat, but I'd be willing to tolerate it for both of our health issues. Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions? — We Could Lean on Each Other Dear WCLOEO, First, you have a permanent problem, while your ex-husband has a temporary one. He needs someone to care for him on a short-term basis. You need help supporting yourself. Second, I get the feeling you'd like to be more than just a caretaker, even though you're willing to settle. But how will you feel when you're living with him every day? Third, have you discussed moving to Arizona with your neurologist? Heat can be difficult for people with M.S. You and your ex need to be honest with one another and discuss all the options. He may have a neighbor or friend who's willing to come in several hours a day to help. Or he could hire someone for a short period of time. Or he could have you move in, but that may cause more problems than it solves. Got a problem? Send it to cheryllavin@aol.com. And check out my blog www.talesfromthefront.com. To find out more about Cheryl Lavin, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2010 CREATORS.COM
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