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Who Needs a Degree When You've Got Love?
We recently heard from Not My Son-In-Law. She was the mother who was upset because her 32-year-old daughter was about to make "a terrible mistake."
The very successful, never-married daughter was dating a 45-year-old widower who had a …Read more.
Are Families Really Like Kleenex?
Are families disposable like diapers, paper plates and razors? Can you really substitute one for another and just go on with your life?
Diane was married for 30 years to Bill, a fireman. They had three children together.
She received a phone call at …Read more.
The Cougar and I
I've been having a bit of a dialogue with If The Cougar Fits. She's the 44-year-old who's divorcing her "immature" husband. Her oldest child is 17. She's been hanging out with 20-something guys who'd like to be more than friends and she's …Read more.
A Mixed Bag
Today's column is about why some men cheat, a man who never will, and the S word.
PAUL: Sometimes men cheat because they can't deal with one of the side effects of getting older. As a man approaches his later years, he may experience loss of sexual …Read more.
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Honor Killings, Selfish Jerks and Lessons Learned the Hard WayToday, readers respond to recent columns . . . CHICAGO DOC: (This regards Heart Sick who wanted to contact his Muslim girlfriend who was married and living in Jordan with her husband and child.) You were much too lenient. He's a whining, selfish wimp. He needs to think about what he may be doing to her. He says her family is "very traditional." If they learn of his interest, by intercepting a message or an email, the consequences to her could be deadly. Honor killing is still practiced in the Middle East. If he truly loves her, he'll quit obsessing over her and give up any thought of contacting her. Any other course of action shows that he doesn't really care for her and that his interest is selfish. JESSICA: (This is about Marlene whose fiance demanded sex days after she had exploratory cancer surgery.) I almost have to think Marlene's letter is fake. I just can't believe there are such jerks in the world. In her darkest hour, all he could think about was what she hadn't done for him — for a grand total of three days. JENNIFER: I don't think Marlene's letter is a fake at all. Her former fiance sounds like my ex-husband. She dodged a bullet. CATHY: I've never had a boyfriend or fiance treat me like that, but once I helped deliver food to a friend of a friend. She was ill and her boyfriend refused to pick up takeout unless she promised to "make it worth his time." I wish I was making it up. And she stayed with him another two years. MARCI: (Regarding Samantha who suffered years of abuse from her husband Harlan until she finally walked out.) She was fortunate to have supportive parents who were willing to take her and her two children into their home, along with all their stuff.
The only thing that really surprises me is that the court let her leave the state with her children. That usually doesn't happen, especially when the abuse isn't documented with medical or police reports, etc. As for her running the marathon, I say: Hooray for her! She has come a long way, baby. HEIDI: It's wise to get documentation of abuse, always. But Harlan sounds like the kind of parent who would give up custody in a heartbeat because he sees his kids as more of a hassle than a reward. He's kind of like my friend's brother's friend who was fighting for custody of his son until the boy's mother said she'd let him take the stereo in exchange for full custody. He promptly dropped the battle and bragged to his friends that he got what he really wanted all along. There really are people like that out there. PATTI: (This is about Marlee who sold her house and moved to be with her lover, who told her he was separated from his wife.) The lessons here are: Never date a man who is "separated but never got around to getting a divorce because he didn't need to," never fall for the "my marriage has been over for years" line, and know what you're getting yourself into before you pick up and move to another state. How do you and your partner celebrate the holidays? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to cheryllavinrapp@gmail.com. To find out more about Cheryl Lavin, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2011 CREATORS.COM
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