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Do You Take This Man -- and His Mother and Her Three Husbands -- to be Your Husband?
Nobody comes to a relationship with a clean slate. We're all products of our past relationships, those of our parents and our grandparents, etc.
Take Courtney and Tommy for example.
Tommy's mother, Crystal, was married to Tommy's father, John. When …Read more.
It Really Is the Thought That Counts
Anybody can give chocolates and roses for Valentine's Day, but let's hear it for the guys with the nerve to give pliers, an oven mitt or a bottle of bubbles.
SALLY: For our first Valentine's Day, my husband gave me a "corn cob" toilet …Read more.
Single Mom Needs Security in New Relationship
Dear Cheryl,
I'm 37 and I have two kids. I've been dating this guy for two months. I really like him, and I think he likes me. When we're together, everything is great. We're so in sync, it's scary. We have the same opinions on food, music, movies, …Read more.
Valentine's Day Redux, Redux
Today's column features some lucky couples and one ungrateful woman.
SAMANTHA: My husband and I celebrate Valentine's Day, but nothing over the top. If I were to let him out of it, he'd stop in a heartbeat. If I had my way, we'd celebrate more. But …Read more.
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He's Almost Perfect ...Dear Cheryl, I'm a 30-year-old African-American professional woman. Educated men know they're a hot commodity and expect me to woo them. Blue-collar guys are intimidated. I finally met the most wonderful guy, and we've been dating for four months. He treats me like a queen. He's 27 and has a good job but wants more. He's very intelligent and is working on several business ventures. But there's a problem. At first I thought it was sex because we only have it once, maybe twice, a week. When we do, I feel like I'm just some random chick. Foreplay is minimal. Afterward, he often grabs his cell phone. But it's not just sex, it's intimacy. Even when we're just relaxing, there's no touching. When I try to kiss him, I get rejected. I can see how this could destroy our relationship in the long run. He told me he's had this problem in all his past relationships. I think if he let his guard down emotionally, he'd be more intimate with me and therefore we'd have more sex. He told me he sometimes feels I deserve better, someone who's in the same place professionally and could focus more on the relationship. I don't want to lose him. I just need some tips on how to inject intimacy in our relationship without putting pressure on him. I've tried everything! — He's Almost Perfect Dear He's Almost Perfect, There are some things that can be fixed. If you're honest with him and he's willing, he can become a more thoughtful lover. If pleasing you is really important to him, he'll occasionally watch TV with his arm around you. But some things can't be fixed.
I hear how much you want this relationship to work. But it might not. And if you continue to settle, you'll resent him and become bitter. Force the issue. It's better to know now than six months or six years from now. Good luck, and stay in touch. SO THIS JEW AND THIS BAPTIST GET MARRIED ... Dear Cheryl, We're Baptists. We just married our son on Saturday to a Jew. In our minds, Jews are atheists since they don't believe in Jesus Christ. What are the chances of this marriage lasting? — Concerned Father Dear Concerned Father, The chances are better if you educate yourself. An atheist is someone who doesn't believe in God. Jews believe in God. Jews believe that Jesus Christ existed. Jews and Christians both read the same holy book. Jews call it the Bible, Christians call it the Old Testament. There are many similarities between the two religions. We all believe in the Golden Rule. It would be a wonderful show of faith in the marriage if you learned about the Jewish religion as a way to welcome your daughter-in-law into the family. And hopefully, that will inspire her parents to study Christianity as way to honor their new son-in-law. Involving both sets of parents can only strengthen the union. Let me know how your studies go. Got a problem? Send it to cheryllavin@aol.com. You can visit her blog at www.talesfromthefront.com. To find out more about Cheryl Lavin, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS.COM
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