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Do You Take This Man -- and His Mother and Her Three Husbands -- to be Your Husband?
Nobody comes to a relationship with a clean slate. We're all products of our past relationships, those of our parents and our grandparents, etc.
Take Courtney and Tommy for example.
Tommy's mother, Crystal, was married to Tommy's father, John. When …Read more.
It Really Is the Thought That Counts
Anybody can give chocolates and roses for Valentine's Day, but let's hear it for the guys with the nerve to give pliers, an oven mitt or a bottle of bubbles.
SALLY: For our first Valentine's Day, my husband gave me a "corn cob" toilet …Read more.
Single Mom Needs Security in New Relationship
Dear Cheryl,
I'm 37 and I have two kids. I've been dating this guy for two months. I really like him, and I think he likes me. When we're together, everything is great. We're so in sync, it's scary. We have the same opinions on food, music, movies, …Read more.
Valentine's Day Redux, Redux
Today's column features some lucky couples and one ungrateful woman.
SAMANTHA: My husband and I celebrate Valentine's Day, but nothing over the top. If I were to let him out of it, he'd stop in a heartbeat. If I had my way, we'd celebrate more. But …Read more.
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Does a Middle-Age Female Virgin Need Experience?Dear Cheryl, You were absolutely right when you suggested the 30-something virgin hire a prostitute to get some experience before he tried to have a relationship. But I'm wondering, would you have recommended the same thing to a woman? — Enquiring Mind Dear Enquiring Mind, Hmmmmmmmmm. Let me think about that. OK, the answer is no. It might not be fair, but what is? The bottom line is sexual inexperience in a middle-age man might be a turn-off to some (most?) women. They might think it's weird and not want to have anything to do with the guy. Sexual inexperience in a middle-age woman might be viewed as weird, but I don't think men would find it the same kind of turn-off. And there's not the pressure on women to appear knowledgeable about sex. If anything, it's just the opposite. So, if a woman wrote and said she was a virgin and had never had a relationship and was afraid of having a relationship because she'd have to expose her lack of experience, I'd tell her to concentrate on finding a man who appealed to her and then let nature take its course. Readers, what do you think? Dear Cheryl, Tell me, what does a man mean when he says, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you?" — Clueless Dear Clueless, He means he's never going to marry you. He means he likes you, enjoys your company, values your opinion and wouldn't kick you out of bed. But he's never, ever going to marry you. Dear Cheryl, You recently had a letter from a woman who signed herself Born Again Virgin. She was a 52-year-old divorced mother of two grown children.
She had only had sex with her husband and was afraid to date because she thought all men would expect sex in return for a night out. That's silly. I'm 58-year-old man (I'm told I look younger). I've been dating since my divorce two years ago. I know several men in my age group and have female friends who date frequently via dating websites. The notion that men expect sex in exchange for dinner is absurd. Maybe some men do, but gentlemen don't. In any event, I doubt that a divorced woman at the age of 52 is unable to say the word N-O. And, by the way, you're always running letters from women complaining about the men they meet online. Well, here's the other side of the coin. I was on e-harmony and match.com and cancelled my membership to both. I had several meetings with women that went nowhere. I wouldn't even call them dates. On each occasion, I met the woman at a high-end restaurant. It never ceases to amaze me how many women would go to places like that dressed like they're on their way to a soccer game. Two examples: One woman, 62, spent the evening telling me that I needed a different picture on my webpage. Another, 58, told me I needed plastic surgery. I have now joined a "social networking organization," which for a fee of over $3,000, guaranties you six dates with women with your stated specifications. My guess is many women may not be willing to have their face and name on a website. We'll see how it works. — Love Stinks and So Do Internet Dating Sites Dear LSASDIDS, I can't wait to hear how it works out. Keep in touch! Got a problem? Send it to cheryllavin@aol.com. And check out my blog www.talesfromthefront.com. To find out more about Cheryl Lavin, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2010 CREATORS.COM
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