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DEAR SUSAN: My definition of singlehood is not having a significant other. I'm reminded of my own singleness every day when I see couples together — contrasted with the way singles are treated. I personally have no desire to stay unmarried. …Read more.
Common Cause
DEAR SUSAN: I find that most angry/bitter single people are that way because they are trying to date "up" instead of looking for someone who has more in common with them financially and in terms of appearance and fitness. Think about it! …Read more.
Give It a Chance
DEAR SUSAN: I am currently going through a divorce and have been amused to see all the resistance to Internet dating. I met the best person on a dating website and couldn't be happier. (I had four dates within a month of signing up; he had three in …Read more.
Core Singleness
Core singleness, the individuality that makes you deliciously one of a kind, has little to do with marital status. Its essence is within all of us, a mixture of genes and chromosomes, with a dash of subliminal impressions and choices thrown in. But …Read more.
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The ChaseDEAR SUSAN: You wrote something that made me write this letter. I quote: "An even quirkier finding (in my survey) is that women lost interest in their married man when they knew his spouse knew about the affair and went along with the triangle. (When she was an unknowing third of the arrangement, single women got a large boost from dating her husband.) Could it be, this columnist wonders, that dating a husband who isn't theirs gives single women the kick of competing with their mother?" I am a happily married man. I've never cheated and never will. It's against everything I believe and the way I was raised. This quote reminds me of a dog chasing a car. As long as the car is moving, it's a challenge for the dog. If the car suddenly stops, the dog loses interest and wanders off. I do believe many women feel "high" when they sleep with married men. There's a degree of adventure, a "rush" in doing something forbidden by society. But if the wife discovers and approves, the high and the rush diminish, and the "other woman" no longer gets a thrill. Comments? — George G., Long Island, N.Y. DEAR GEORGE: Lots of them. For openers, you didn't mention — or you may not realize — that a married lover is a safe haven, a respite from the rigors of dating and the painful endings that can wear down even the best of us. From all I know of the single mindset, it's easy to believe that the safety of dating someone already spoken for overshadows any other reason for the married-spouse arrangement. That said, safety can become a given in the relationship, at which point it morphs into something that reminds me of primal competition with the mother for the father. Not difficult to believe, given the way young girls use their girlie-girl wiles to seduce their daddies away from the other women in the triangles, their mommies.
TAX ON SOFT DRINKS. For a while now, I've been inducing you to subscribe to (or, at least, heed the advice of) the foremost nutrition newsletter I know of, the good sense and health facts published by a group that does not and will not accept any form of advertising, the Center for Science in the Public Interest. No special interests here. When the people at CSPI do research, you can be certain the findings are accurate and, best of all, untainted by undue influence. (Ask about this group and you'll realize its standards are high and uncompromising.) Today's sermon is on soft drinks, those calorie-laden, weight-busting, nutrition-empty cans of liquid candy. Facts: "More than 34 percent of American adults are obese and another 33 percent are overweight. The picture is just as gloomy for kids. Roughly 32 percent of children aged 2 to 19 are overweight or obese. Because of that, some experts project that the current generation of kids will have a shorter lifespan than their parents." (Facts taken from a report by Michael Jacobson, Ph.D., executive director of the Center for Science in the Public Interest.) Jacobson is the driving force at CSPI. The group pulls no punches and names products that are downright dangerous to your health. I have no qualms about recommending this source of straight talk. Unbiased by advertising. To subscribe: Nutrition Action Healthletter Center for Science in the Public Interest 1875 Connecticut Ave. N.W., Suite 300 Washington, DC 20009 http://www.cspinet.org 202-332-9110 Write to Susan Deitz in care of this newspaper. She will answer all letters that come with a self-addressed, stamped envelope. Or you may e-mail her at info@creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS SYNDICATE INC.
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