Burger King Beau DEAR SUSAN: I have sexual feelings for my boyfriend, but it's usually when we're apart. I get that rush of lovey feelings when I'm at work or driving to the store; I think of him and how he makes me feel good about myself. More than that, I love …Read more. The End of Love The last scene of a once-wondrous romance isn't pretty. The pain is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Yes, I was dumped by the man who helped jump-start my work life but did me dirty in the realm of love. Looking back, I can realize the …Read more. No-Fun Games DEAR SUSAN: I agree that the timing of a phone call is just the beginning of game playing that women use with men. I'd like to expose some of the more serious games they play — games that they may think are cute but that in reality are stupid …Read more. Entanglements DEAR SUSAN: It's hard to believe I'm actually writing this letter! I live in a tight community, and it seems as if there's no one to honestly communicate with regarding my predicament — so here I am, asking for your advice. I'm 17, but through …Read more.more articles
Give It a Chance
DEAR SUSAN: I am currently going through a divorce and have been amused to see all the resistance to Internet dating. I met the best person on a dating website and couldn't be happier. (I had four dates within a month of signing up; he had three in the 16 months before he found me.) My advice to anyone is to give things a chance. Meet someone who intrigues you in a public place, and work things from there. Remember that the other person is also looking and will generally appreciate your letting him/her know after the first date whether or not you continue to be interested. If you hit it off, you'll both know it. So get a little outside your comfort zone and take the chance. After all, what have you got to lose? At the very least, I had some great stories to tell at work! — From the "Single File" blog
DEAR BLOGGER: As my brother used to say before he met the love of his life through a mutual friend, dating is a game of hurt and be hurt. No doubt, many egos are crushed daily by unreal hopes raised too high too soon, but — and this is a big but — rejection feels awful when there's just too much of it. And let's face it; some of us have heavier armor than others, defenses that can, in the extreme, shrink life to the tiny world of self-absorption. Still, assuming your singleness folds in good people and more interests than surfing social sites nightly, in moderation they can be diverting. Whether they bring the embodiment of your most romantic dreams is in the lap of the gods, not mine to say, but it seems wise to cast your net widely — all the while remembering there are plenty of fish in the sea.
DEAR SUSAN: What many men don't seem to understand is that not all women are man-hating moneygrubbers.
DEAR BLOGGER: There are some who stay fixed in their beliefs as an easier way to go through life because it needs little thought. (Yes, shifting and rethinking and changing opinions means leaving one's comfort zone. Ouch.) It gets to be a habit, a lifelong curbing of the mind. In the short term, it's easier that way, but over the long haul, the mind shrinks. Life becomes a reliving of old patterns and old choices. Original thinking is unknown. But the mind hardens into cynicism and negativism. Sad for the person, sadder still for the relationships that could have been but weren't given entrance to the narrowness of a cloistered mind. Generalizing is a dangerous game, so restrictive that it glosses over the individuality that makes each one of us so precious. Marking time through the years with the same-old, same-old narrowness of mind seems to me to be a humungous waste of brain matter. Granted, it is safer in the short run, but safety comes at a very high price.
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