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Courage
DEAR SUSAN: If, as you believe, courage is the passport from old stale patterns, then only the brave are sure to get their dreams fulfilled. But if the answers to our questions are inside us, why don't we just take a peek? — From the …Read more.
Womanstrong
DEAR SUSAN: Your quiz question about whether strong, assertive women turn men off made me write to you. Even men with assertive, strong mothers seem to like women who are bubbly and interesting without being too independent. Often, it is hard for me …Read more.
Sorting Sex, Part 1
The best way to do these questions justice is to read them through in one sitting, let them marinate awhile and then read them again and give your responses. Some may trigger immediate responses; others take more thought. But however you approach …Read more.
Woman Defined
DEAR SUSAN: You asked us whether men and women can be friends or whether they're too dissimilar. I find that men I've already had relationships with may continue to be friends with me — but at an arm's length. The emotional closeness in a …Read more.
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As IsDEAR SUSAN: I guess that at this stage of life (age 63), I'm willing to be the exact same man a woman wants, as long as that doesn't involve change. Sounds kind of selfish at first hearing, but I expect to return the favor — or not find her attractive. People should not get too far along with someone they can't like "as is." All of which, I think, states the obvious. — From the "Single File" blog DEAR BLOGGER: I love you; you're perfect. Now change. That's the scenario, and it's not too uncommon; it was the name of a hit musical. But if it's happening in most love relationships, why hasn't anyone suggested a way to make it a flop? Like, for example, taking a few moments out of our busy lives to actually mull this over. Yes, how about devoting a few thinking moments (and a large sheet of paper) to sort this out? The first column will list traits you absolutely, positively cannot endure — turnoffs, to put it mildly. Then list the traits you can tolerate long term. And the last column is reserved for traits you find endearing, worthy, respectable. (That last one is a zinger. At first blush, it's unromantic, but it's oh so sexy in the long run!) Read the lists over, and then go and brave the icy blasts of single socializing. You won't forget them; follow your viscera. Kinda sounds doable. DEAR SUSAN: My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than a year, and frankly, we'll probably be dating for many more years. We are very much in love. But yesterday I was again reminded of a small issue that's been our one point of disagreement: his hair. Yes. So insignificant and petty a subject, yet it has crawled up under my skin for good. He has the most beautiful wavy, dark hair, and I take great pleasure in running my fingers through it during our long drives to and from San Francisco.
DEAR BLOGGER: In as few calm words as I can muster, I urge — no, implore — you to read (and reread daily) the following when you find your graceful fingers (bedecked with gems) craving like a junkie for their fix of running through your beloved's once-long and wavy head of hair. (Sigh.) Ah, those golden moments of the long drive to the big city, which led to running your tapered, musical digits through his long, voluptuous locks. (More sighs, deeper and more heartfelt than before.) Ingesting your words again and again, I can only point you in the direction of the local soup kitchen, where true need abounds. Wake up, little lady! You've got it all! True love, a shining future, love reciprocated, love bound by mutual interest. (A life lived in music is a rare and special privilege.) I must forfeit my natural impulse to advise you and share my counsel. Why? Because the problem is minuscule, absurd, hardly worthy of notice. Your man's position about his hair makes sense, not only because it's logical but because it is his. Give his hair follicles the respect they are due. Next time the issue arises, play a reverse shot: Compliment him on his talent — and his good judgment in keeping his hair at a conservative length. Watch his shock and awe as he reacts to your reversal on this nonissue. Oh — one bit of advice: Read the newspapers; there's an interesting world out there. Have a question for Susan? You can reach her directly at sumor123@aol.com. COPYRIGHT 2013 CREATORS.COM 
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