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Rage Against the MachineI really need to break up with my girlfriend. She's hot but kinda nuts, and to be honest, I'm embarrassed by her tantrums and a little scared of her. I'm 18, she's 20, and it just seems like everything sets her off. She goes off on these rants, and I think that gives her strength. You know, like from the adrenaline of her rage. Like the Hulk. Is it OK to break up with her over text? — Happy Thumbs I'm glad you brought the Hulk into this, Happy Thumbs. Yes, he was driven by rage — but rage against injustice, wrongdoing, the evil work of men with lively '70s mustaches in the case of the television series and of the neatly groomed Tim Roth in the 2008 film. The Hulk never wanted to hurt anybody. Before HULK SMASH was a T-shirt, it was a last resort in the face of men behaving badly. In light of this, all I see is green when imagining your girlfriend reading that text. This is exactly what Thoreau was talking about when he said, "The path of least resistance leads to crooked rivers and crooked men." You get nowhere when you cop out, Happy Thumbs. Look at John McCain. Mayonnaise in a suit, right? And yet he was twice his party's pick for "most powerful man in the world." Why? He engaged. In hard-core combat. He showed up. He saw action — something you're going to see very little of when word gets out about your dirty little text. Show up. Engage. Bring reinforcements if necessary — and by that I mean a couple of friends and a getaway car.
Totally Unsolicited I don't have any advice for Adrianne Haslet-Davis, the 32-year-old dancer whose left foot was blown off in the Boston Marathon bombings. She doesn't appear to need any. But the rest of us might glean something from her. For anyone who has ever struggled with identifying what they are truly meant to do, here's Adrianne on dancing, "When I'm dancing, I don't feel the need to be doing anything else. My joy is complete." For anyone who has ever sat down for one too many drinks with self-pity, here's Adrianne on that temptation in dark times: "I've thrown my walker across the room and haven't used it yet. But I realized you have to be selfish about the things that matter the most. My husband. The job I love. Dancing is my life. Yeah, having my foot blown off, that really sucks. But I can't wallow in woe is me." And for anyone who has ever felt overpowered by circumstances, here's her take: "I can't let some (expletive) come along and steal my whole life. So, I'll dance again. And next year, though I've never been a runner, yes, I plan to run the marathon." Inspiration isn't always Zen like Gandhi, self-sacrificing like Mother Teresa or profound like Confucius. Inspiring people also get angry, swear and throw things. And then they get on with it. Follow Jessica on Twitter @sicaleigh, and ask her just about anything at askquestionable@gmail.com. To find out more about Jessica Leigh and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers, visit creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2013 CREATORS.COM 
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