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Maintaining Love
Dear John: If you find someone that you're attracted to is it at all possible that you can create a love between you by just working at it? Or is it more a matter of finding that one-and-only right person who has just the right magic to make it all …Read more.
Woman in Love With Best Friend
Dear John: I'm a 40-year-old woman, and my best friend is a male. "Craig" and I have been friends for three years. Lately, I have been having feelings for Craig that are more than just friendship. Is this normal? He is a man I have trusted …Read more.
Woman Afraid Friend Will Sleep With Her Brother
Dear John: My friend, "Jodi," recently ended a long-term relationship. Her boyfriend had no respect for her and often cheated on her. Needless to say, Jodi makes it a point to be checked out for STDs. She told me this in confidence, and …Read more.
Woman Ponders if She Should Pay
Dear John: I am going out with a lovely gentleman. He happily pays the bill whenever we go out. Sometimes I felt guilty because I'd like to share the expenses. Is it a good idea to bring the topic up? I feel it may ruin the attraction at this early …Read more.
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Wife's Weight Crushes Husband's Sex DriveDear John: My wife's weight has gone way up. Not to my surprise, I no longer feel aroused by her. This is a rather recent problem. After 10 years of marriage, it has left me wondering how I can explain this to her. Our diminished sex life is a disappointment to us both. I'd like to be able to tell her why I feel this way, but she doesn't take criticism very well. I want to make things better. How can I do this without hurting her feelings? —Doubting My Desire, in Newport Beach, Calif. Dear Doubting: As you can imagine, in an age of overweight and obesity, this is an issue that gets raised quite often. The best approach is to lead by example. Did you know that about 70 percent of the calories people consume come out of their own kitchen pantry and refrigerator? Tell her that you want to make a new start in 2012 and clear your home of all the products with added sugars. From cookies to cokes to candy, if you can beat the sugar devil, you're more than half way to winning your war against being overweight. In fact, you don't have to mention weight at all. Start your own exercise program and become your own model of healthy living.
Dear John: In a previous column you suggested that, by enlarging your dating pool, you are more likely to find a suitable partner. I live in a place where, if a man dates around, he is described as a "womanizer." Any suggestions? —Not a Player, in Ashland, Ore. Dear Not a Player: There is a difference between dating around and sleeping around. Despite public opinion, in your neck of the woods, the best way to find a soul mate is through trial-and-error. Should you limit your dating opportunities, you will place an unfair burden on both yourself and your date to live up to unreasonable expectations. No one can speak ill of you if, through this process, you are consistently a gentleman. John Gray is the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." Visit his website, http://www.marsvenus.com, for advice on dating, marriage, parenting, romance and workplace issues. Or e-mail him at comments@marsvenus.com. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2011 JOHN GRAY'S MARS VENUS ADVICE
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