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Afraid to Commit at 50
Dear John: I am a 50-year-old single man who owns my own business. Recently, I started seeing a woman who lives nearby. I explained that I saw myself as a loner and in fact, had not had a relationship in the past 15 years. I also said that I felt …Read more.
Baby Delivery Drama
Dear John: My husband and I are having a baby next month. I'm looking forward to this blessed event, except for one thing: both my mother and my mother-in-law want to be in the delivery room with us.
We will be delivering in one of the hospital's …Read more.
Maintaining Love
Dear John: If you find someone that you're attracted to is it at all possible that you can create a love between you by just working at it? Or is it more a matter of finding that one-and-only right person who has just the right magic to make it all …Read more.
Woman in Love With Best Friend
Dear John: I'm a 40-year-old woman, and my best friend is a male. "Craig" and I have been friends for three years. Lately, I have been having feelings for Craig that are more than just friendship. Is this normal? He is a man I have trusted …Read more.
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Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, May 28Dear John: My boss is really a very nice man, but there is one problem: At certain times he blusters and barks his way through the day, and is often unapproachable by me or others on his staff. Is there anything that I can say or do to help him to realize how his dark days affect the rest of us? — FrankenBoss's Assistant, in New York Dear Igor: What you've got here is the office version of a man going into his cave. All that grumbling indicates that he is feeling stressed and concerned about an issue, probably work-related. In these high-stress times, that is certainly understandable. Unfortunately, the vast majority of grumbling cave-dwelling Martians are unaware of how their behavior affects others. This is an area where men and women in the workplace show distinctly different behaviors: A woman's instinct is to interpret his withdrawal as a cry for help. This draws her closer to the cave and, just like approaching a dragon, she may well get burned if she comes too close. On the other hand, other men in the work environment recognize this cave-like behavior and back off until they sense there is a better time in which to present solutions. Male managers are in a better position to get the results they seek when they realize that this cave mentality is viewed by their co-workers as angry, uncaring and dismissive.
Dear John: What does it mean when a man says he doesn't really want to get married, and, although he loves his parents, but doesn't want to really be like them? In this case, the "he" comes from a large family and his parents are very religious. — Sitting on the Sidelines, in Topeka, Kan. Dear Sitting on the Sidelines: There are a dozen different messages a man can give a woman when he wants to continue a relationship but is not ready to commit to marriage. All of these avoid the phrase, "Will you marry me?" Now that's he's been decoded, you need to take the information and make a decision of your own: Do you want to wait around, or do you want to move on? Do so, and you'll more quickly find the guy willing to say the words that you want to hear. John Gray is the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." If you have a question, write to John in care of this newspaper or by e-mail at: www.marsvenusliving.com. All questions are kept anonymous and will be paraphrased. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 JOHN GRAY'S MARS VENUS ADVICE DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.
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